Tag: transman

Hello! My girlfriend came out to me as trans a few weeks ago. I love and support him no matter what. We’ve already discussed some things pertaining to transitioning to male even though he isn’t quite sure if he wants to go through with it or not. There is one thing I feel like I need to ask someone who has already been through it. What have been things your wife has done to help you transition?

~ transmandad ~ Leave a comment

Hey,

It’s awesome that you’re so supportive of your boyfriend. Good for you and good for him!

Things that my Wife does to help me go far beyond transition, but off the top of my head I would say valuable transition-related help has come in the way of:

  • Making awkward appointments at gynecological specialists for me when I needed my hysto.
  • Sensing when I am dysphoric and allowing me space, comfort and time to heal.
  • She gives me my testosterone – I take Reandron (4ml of liquid) and it’s far too intense for me to self inject in my thigh – which is where I prefer to do shots when I do them myself. She does them in my buttocks.
  • She took care of me after my various surgeries.

The list is seemingly endless now that I think about it. I couldn’t have done this without my Wife.

What do you suggest for a guy who’s beginning to feel like it’s probably best to just give up? Everything feels hopeless and unattainable right now, and I can’t keep living the way I am…. I feel horrible.

~ transmandad ~ Leave a comment

Ugh, my answer didn’t show up.

Hey man, firstly I’d like to commend you on your bravery regarding reaching out to someone. It’s often the most difficult step to take.

Secondly, here’s a list of worldwide crisis help lines which you might like to keep handy in case there’s no one you feel as though you can speak to. These people are specifically trained and will even be able to refer you to people in your local area sometimes.

Finally, I can attest that it does and can get better. I have been down many a dark road in my time thus far, and even took a very dark path where I attempted to take my own life.
I am living proof that people like us can get through this shit.

Hang in there man.

do you have scars or did they fade, what do you do about top surgery scars? (and what kind of surgery did you get?)

~ transmandad ~ Leave a comment

I have faint scars on my chest which you can sort of see in my Avatar and this picture here (taken years ago).

I had double incision, with NO nipple grafts; that is the surgeon completely removed my natal nipples and areola, and once my chest itself had healed, surgically reconstructed them. The areola coloration was cosmetically tattooed on once nipples had healed.

I chose this type of procedure as I had no care for nipple sensation at all, wanted to be able to choose exactly what size my nipples were and where they were located.

All in all, I am exceptionally happy with the results. Perhaps I’ll get my areola pigmentation touched up, but that’s a perhaps.

As far as scars are concerned, I used nothing at all except Bio-Oil, which I’ve written about here.

~ transmandad ~ Leave a comment

Long time no write.

I’ve had two days off in a row (half way through the second one as I type) and it’s been fairly hectic. I haven’t felt as though the opportunity to rest has presented itself.

Christmas is becoming alarmingly imminent, and with my days filled with excruciating 4am (4:30am at best) starts – I’d almost forgotten about Christmas entirely. It’s been Work, Home, Eat, Kid, Sleep, Repeat.

Christmas is the absolute most magical time of year to have Children around. K is really amping up and it’s lovely to witness. I feel jealous of that “free” feeling when (in Australia, anyway) the school year is winding to a halt and the last few days of school are filled with scorching hot days, class parties and icy-poles.

I shouldn’t tout; I get three days off over Christmas (because I put in for them). Christmas Eve, Christmas Day and Boxing Day. We are traveling to and from another State to be with my Parents on Eve and Boxing Day – a lot of travel for a very short visit.

I’ve always had at least a week off over the Christmas period; often up to three weeks at a time. It doesn’t help that my Wife gets three whole weeks off with our Son before she has to go back to work in the New Year, and he back to school some weeks later.

I am greatful that this job has allowed me to indulge my family and friends with nicer gifts than I otherwise would have been able to aquire this Holiday season. It’s relieving not having to “rob Peter to pay Paul” as my Father would say – to put off paying bills or debts or this and that in order to create the Christmas we feel our Son deserves.

We are by no means where we want to be, financially speaking. But if I keep this up for a half dozen months I can get a loan for a house on my wage alone. Let alone combined with my Wife’s income.
And – get this – the mortage repayments per week will be less than we were paying for a week’s rent when living in the city.

I’ll have it paid off in under ten years.

Hey dude, awesome page. I will be following as I plan to be a dad some day and it’s nice to see someone going through that process as a trans man before me! I just got one of the new tsw stp packers and like it better than my peecock (which felt cheap and broke)… Check out my page if ya like :)

~ transmandad ~ Leave a comment

Hey, thanks for the kind words – glad this blog is useful to some.

I also appreciate the recommendation regarding the TSW STP; but I’m not currently in the market for a new STP.

I’ve had my current Generation 1 Peecock for approximately 4 years, using it every single day and it’s only recently begun to wear away and begin to break – not really even break just more wear away from friction. Four years of continual use has far exceeded the lifespan I thought the product would originally have, so I haven’t really had anything negative to say with regards to the longevity of my particular Peecock. They do however leave something to be desired in terms of realism – but that’s a compromise I’m willing to take as it does what I want it to in all other areas.

Edit:
I just researched the TSW STP’s and unfortunately the reason I’m so enamored with the Peecock is it’s 3-in-1 ability to become a hard prosthetic without having to switch “equipment”. The ease of use for an STP and/or packer is simply a bonus for me.

The fact the you have a child who yes is not biologically yours but clearly loves you more than anything is a gift onto itself. My wife and I are going through the insemination process. I put my surgeries aside so we could afford it and although yes this child is not biologically “mine”, I am still her father and always will be. You seem life the kindest and most loving man and your son is extremely lucky to have you and your wife as parents. I aspire to be a father like you.

~ transmandad ~ Leave a comment

Words cannot express the deep gratitude I have for your kind words, Anon.

Best of luck with the insemination process and your child.