Tag: transman

I have just completed gender therapy and am about to begin my testosterone treatments. Can you share your experiences with just starting hormone therapy? What can I expect in the near future?

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To be brutally honest I don’t remember all the nuances and important details of starting HRT, but I’d hope very much that if you’re undergoing that process your treating Doctor would have informed you exactly of what to expect, and a brief timeline of such events.

Basically: dick growth, sensitivity, hair growth, voice breaking, pimples, sweat, hungry, horny. You’re going to go through puberty, man. And all that comes along with it.

Happens at different stages for different folks, as hormones react individually with your body as opposed to someone else’s.

There is life after transition.

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I wanted to post about something, to make something abundantly clear:

I don’t even remember I am trans/think about it in daily life.

There are some exceptions to that rule; dysphoric bouts, family bringing it up, self doubt, anxiety and depression. But for the most part – I live carefree, knowing I am 100% male in everything I do.

I don’t think about my past. It’s just that – the past. Sometimes people have history they’d rather not remember or speak about. And that’s how I view mine.

Have hope, there is life after transition. And it’s beautiful.

My wife and I are currently ttc and non disclosure was an easy decision for us. To you and other parents: If you were able to decide on disclosing or not, would you have? If you chose to do so, what would be your reasoning for it? Going to the Dr regularly or seeing a plastic surgeon is not uncommon today. Do you feel like it has some special relevance to being a parent or a person in general? I fail to see how feeling like a man and living as one means you have a secret that needs to be told.

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I agree wholeheartedly;

there is no “secret” to be told. At all. Disclosure – especially to your children – is a very personal thing. If I had the choice over; I probably would still choose to disclose. My own Son was very, very confused about his own body in relation to my own – among many other reasons.

I feel as though me being trans has absolutely nothing to do with how I raise (or would raise) children, nor does it hold any baring on how I am as a human being in general.

I apologize if I didn’t answer your question properly.

Yes, I would choose to disclose if I had the option. I can’t quite articulate why I feel that way, though, and I know before my status was disclosed to him I was adamant he’d never know until he was older, if at any time.

It’s had no reflection on how he treats me. He still refers to his conception as though I was involved – “When your sperm met Mum’s egg and I was created….” and we don’t correct him. He knows what’s up.

Any other parents want to weigh in?

outting yourself isnt so bad if you know for sure you can trust the people who have that info. I don’t have anything else to offer as advice as I was never able to be stealth since I started transitioning in middle school. Sorry :(

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Yeah, I know. I’ve outed myself to people before – it’s a thing.

Just rarely. If ever.

My only issue with outing myself to this certain person is the issue of confidentiality. I live in a tiny rural town and it would be a very negative thing for my family if it became common knowledge.

Wife’s discussion with my Father.

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I’ve been meaning to write about this for quite some time, but haven’t felt I had enough time to give it the attention it deserves.

Some weeks back, whilst visiting my parents in another state – my Wife and Father had a frank, honest discussion with each other.

Some background information: my Dad is disabled, due to a work car accident when I was only six years old. As a result, he’s semi-paralyzed from the waist down and was told he’d never be able to walk again. He cannot feel his legs and feet, amoung other things. He’s taught himself how to walk because he is a stubborn bastard, haha.

Anyway – my Wife was attempting to explain why I feel like I want lower surgery, and the barrier to that surgery for me. Dad could not understand why having a penis was so important to me – he kept saying “But, the penis doesn’t make a man! – he’s more of a man than half the guys with dicks…”

My Wife tried, several ways, to get him to understand that I know a penis isn’t integral to being male, but for me it’s important.

He said something to her which I haven’t been able to forget. He said “Look, if I kept thinking the way he does – that I need to have a functioning ‘normal’ penis in order to be a man – I’d have killed myself years ago. Mine doesn’t work. Nothing. Nadda. Nobodies home. Probably a bit too much information, but you get what I mean.”

Dad has a bit of trouble speaking to me about these types of personal things. It’s not been a usual occurance in his culture and family to have men speak to each other so honestly about such deep topics, so I wasn’t actually there for the conversation.

My Wife told my Father that he needed to tell me that. All of it. And whilst he agreed; it has yet to happen.

I keep thinking about the conversation they had and feeling bad. Because here’s my own Father – the strongest man I know. The most amazing Father and Husband and Brother and Son. And he feels like I do. Or has. Whatever. And here I am – able-bodied, healthy. Not disabled. And I have the nerve to whinge about not having a cock?

I guess this is why I never wrote about this previously, simply because I don’t know what else to say other than this particular conversation has had me thinking for several weeks.