I’m going to have even less time than I already do to update here, so I’m putting out a call for Questions I can answer at my own pace to keep content rolling in.
Tag: trans man
how’d you are your wife meet? And if you don’t mind me asking how many years did you guys get married after meeting?
I’m almost certain I have answered this before, but I can’t seem to find it so it warrants another go.
My Wife and I met via a conference in the top end of Australia; both our universities had sent us there and from first sight, we were both smitten.
I spent the entire conference with her, every second, and we began a long-distance relationship after we returned to our seperate states.
It took me two months to realise I needed to move to be with her, and I did.
I proposed to her about 6 months into our relationship, and she said yes.
We have been together for 10 years, and married for 3 years. We waited so long for the actual wedding as I was not yet legally male and still had to have my hysto etc.
This has now been added to the FAQ.
Kik: transmandad.
I am bored and now logged into this kik. Entertain me, please?
It’s 1am here in America and I’ve had a bad headache and haven’t been able to sleep because I’ve been struggling so much thinking about my future. I have an unsupportive family and I’m at the point where I need to make changes in my life if I want to be happy. I felt really sad and depressed and have been crying so I came on tumblr to distract myself and your page came up in my suggestions. Your posts give me hope and I want to say thank you so much for sharing your personal experiences.
Hey man.
Thank you for the kind words.
You’re most certainly not alone, and feel free to message me any time you aren’t feeling great. It may take me a while to respond, because I’m super busy but I do read every single ask that comes into my box.
You future is going to happen regardless of whether you lay there worrying about it, I promise. It’s difficult to just “let go” but ultimately – that’s the best thing to do. I know it’s hard.
Distraction is a great therapy for a worried mind. I use this tactic all the time and it’s brilliant for us stress heads; check out something that makes your heart flutter, or your mind whizz, or watch cute cat videos on youtube, or watch a super interesting documentary.
This hasn’t been very helpful and I do apologize, but feel free to contact me any time you feel the need.
Hello. I’m not really sure how to ask this, so it may sound like rambling. I am 17, and FtM. I really want to adopt kids some day. I am worried they will hate me or maybe get bullied or something because of who I am. Is there a way that would be best to tell them who I was so they don’t freak out and disown me? A prime age? I know I am a big young to worry about stuff like this, but it taints my daydreams when my own kids turn against me or run away haha (but really…). Thanks!
Hey. Never apologize for asking a question, the only silly question is that which is left unasked.
I think becoming a parent when you are trans is always going to be fraught with “what if?” type scenarios. But ultimately; kids don’t give a fuck if you have three heads and are green, as long as you love and care for them.
It’s terrifying, but the only thing I can think of more terrifying is not living the life you truly want.
As an aside, here is a link about coming out to K, and here is a link to a great rescource pertaining to coming out to your kids called the “Little Boy Book” produced by FTM Australia, available in hard copy for a fee or for free in .PDF form.
How do you even come out to your parents? My father pretty much hates anything nontraditional and I’m afraid of losing him if I come out. What can I do to soften the blow?
Coming out is a very personal and intimate process, but there are several ways in which to come out and “lessen” the impact in can have on you directly.
I suggest writing a thorough coming out letter – it allows you to speak your mind without getting interrupted, and gives the reader an opportunity for information to sink in.
For what it’s worth, HERE is my “coming out” post.
Oh man, thanks for following my blog! You’re a big inspiration to me and I hope to one day have what you have! In every sense of the word! Little K is very a very lucky little dude and your wife sounds like an amazing woman. Your life sounds perfect and I can’t wait to have that!
This is a very lovely sentiment, thank you.
I am the lucky one. I certainly count my blessings.
My life is by far from perfect in every sense of the word, but it’s about as close as one could possibly get.
The Wife and I have spoken recently about the large amount of questions/asks we get about “how” to find love.
It makes both of us really sad that a ton of trans people are under the impression they’ll have to settle for someone who loves them, or that they may never find that in the first place.
No, stop.
You will find someone who is right for you. It may seem stupid, but I honestly believe there is someone (perhaps even multiple people) out there for everyone. It might be more difficult in the beggining because as trans people, we don’t tend to allow ourselves enough room to love our physical apperance without a lot of work and dedication, but that doesn’t mean it’s impossible.
It’s also spurred conversation about how we might be able to take a non-identifying “family photo” of sorts. Perhaps of the back of us, perhaps in a location no where near where we reside. Perhaps it will never happen at all, but there’s been discussion around it.
Hi, I’m also a trans dad. I have a 7 years old and he knows I’m trans. I’m 26, but pre-everything. Looking forward to testosterone in april and hearing from you ^-^
Hey, that’s awesome!
I remember when K was 7; such a magical age and they seem to grow so quickly from here on out.
Congrats on T in April, that’s big news!
Sorry I you’ve answered this a million times, but I can’t find it on your page…Which top surgery did you get? (your chest looks great!)
I know I have answered this before, but upon checking my FAQ’s I couldn’t find it either. Apologies for that.
I had a double incision without nipple grafts. My nipples were removed entirely in the first surgery, and my incisions left to heal.
Once the initial surgery was healed, my surgeon then surgically created new nipples from my skin, while I was under twilight sedation. This was actually amazing to watch, something from nothing.
Once the nipples themselves were healed, I then had my areola and pigmentation of the nipples cosmetically tattooed on.
This way, I got to choose the exact size, color and location of my nipples entirely and my surgeon did not have to focus on anything other than achieving the best possible male contour for my chest. It is the procedure my surgeon reccomended, although they do the “traditional” nipple graft variation alongside peri-areola also.
As an aside, this question is now in my FAQ page located here.
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