Tag: testosterone

Hi, I live in Australia too and I was wondering if it was difficult for you to get your gender changed on your birth certificate? If you have had it changed.

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I have had it changed, this is how I was able to legally marry my Wife.

It actually was a lot less difficult than I anticipated; I felt I had to jump through far more hoops to get my hysto done.
I downloaded the forms from my state’s Births, Deaths and Marriages website and had my GP who has been treating me for 8 years fill it out, alongside my Surgeon who performed my Hysto. I also attached a very large stack of documents pertaining to my chest surgery, psychiatrist letters for approval of prior surgeries and diagnosis etc and had them witnessed and signed by a Justice of the Peace for offical measure. I did not have to enclose these as per the guidelines on the BDM website, but I was very paranoid about spending so much time and money in order to get this changed I wanted to do every thing I could to ensure it would be processed smoothly.

Lo and behold, about four weeks later I recieved a brand new birth certificate, with no mention of prior name or sex. Lovely.

Hi, i’m looking to start T very soon. My girlfriend and I have been together for a while now and we’ve spoken about having children. I don’t want to carry a child but would like to have a biological child with my DNA. I guess my question is, what process would we have to go through so my girlfriend carries a child that is linked to me biologically?

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I didn’t carry or donate any genetic material to my Son, who is technically my Step-Son.

The only way that I am aware of accomplishing this is to have your eggs frozen and stored, and have your girlfriend carry those fertilized eggs insider her as a surrogate. Once again, I am not a medical professional so your best option is to speak to someone who is.

As far as I am aware, you should most likely look into freezing your eggs prior to Testosterone, so as to have the maximum potential success for any future usage of them.

Some time ago, I made a stupid decision and outed a transgendered person without thinking before I spoke. Looking back, I’m not sure why I did this, and due to my anxiety disorder I’ve been unable to stop myself from feeling guilty since this happened and constantly stress over it. I feel like what I’ve done is completely unforgivable but I need some closure, and I wanted to ask for your opinion on it as you’re someone I greatly admire.

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Firstly I want to say congratulations on your self reflection and assessment; I think it’s very bold to own up to past “mistakes”. Secondly I also want to remind you that, well, you’re human! We are fallable and often make mistakes in order to learn from them.

I can understand Anxiety Disorder, and if you were to message me off Anon, we can speak about that at length if you wish.

You need to understand that no amount of guilt or self punishment will “retract” past actions/words, nor will they make you feel any better about the situation. In fact, it’s likely to do the exact opposite.

If you are still in contact with said person, perhaps to gain the much needed closure you speak of, perhaps write them an Anon email or message or something similar, and apologize.

What you did wasn’t nice, but it’s certainly not “completely unforgivable” – I think by the way you have phrased this you are more than aware of the reprecussions of outing someone. That is more than enough of a lesson learnt; many trans people still don’t understand this.

Give yourself a break. You are human, and we all make mistakes. What is impressive to me is that you are working actively to try and rectify what you see as a wrongdoing. Again, much more than most people ever do. Well done.

Hi, I am a transsexual male and I have been going to therapy for the past few months now. Hopefully within the next few months, I will be able to start testosterone. However, while I am happy that I get to see myself grow into the man that I should have been, there are been bouts of nervousness and doubt that I have been dealing with. I am not sure if it’s normal or not. Most of my nervousness and doubt is the fear of my future. Fear of the unknown. Are these fears and doubts normal? (cont…)

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(cont…) I mean, I honestly can’t see myself living the rest of my life as a woman. Not because of gender roles or how I dress, but because I literally feel like I should’ve been born male. I should have a flat chest and a penis. As a future parent, I see myself as father, not a mother. He and him. But as I said earlier, I have just been have a lot bouts of nervousness and fears. Even anxiety. I don’t know what to do. I am at a loss here. Are these fears also fear of regret?

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I commend you for your thoroughness regarding therapy and the like, well done. I can’t speak for everyone but from my experience it is certainly “normal” to doubt yourself/transition. I would be more concerned if you had no doubts, to be blatant.
Transitioning is an exceptionally large process to undergo, and should not be taken lightly – you seem to have a good grasp of this and that’s great.

Fear of the unknown is one thing humans are fantastic at. It’s also a really valid fear – it’s scary not knowing what to expect/what will eventuate from decisions you make.

You mentioned you can’t see yourself as a Woman, and wish to be a Father. These are all things you need to reflect upon when feeling doubtful.

But you also need to remember that self doubt in small amounts is healthy, it’s a critical way of looking at things and serves a purpose.

Did you grow taller when you transitioned? Did your hands and feet get any bigger either? Just something I’ve always been curious about.

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Unfortunately I did not.
I medically transitioned when I was legally able to, at 18 years old – as my parents were not willing to be supportive with regards to the medical side of things.

I have always had a short stature, especially when comparing my height to the rest of my family – but unfortunately I had finished all the growing I was able to do prior to the introduction of T.

Growth plates are fickle things; if you begin medical transition early enough (or before your growth plates fuse) you may be able to benefit from some height growth, alongside other body parts.

I think perhaps my feet grew half a size, but I can’t be exactly sure because I never really bothered to find out my actual foot size to begin with. Other people I have know that are on T have reported an increase in foot size, however – so it’s not totally impossible.

As far as hand size goes; same deal, I didn’t experience any change. I am relatively happy with the overall size of my hands, just wish my fingers weren’t to thin, long and bony – purchasing a wedding band was an absolute nightmare. I had to get a men’s ring sized down to a very small size.

If anyone else has any experiences, feel free to chip in?

Different anon, but still. Did you notice any changes in ability to learn or memorize things? Or ability to concentrate more or something?

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I noticed I was able to concentrate more, but I feel that was mainly due to the fact that my internal turmoil regarding my transsexuality was subdued once I got the transition ball rolling, so to speak.

I have not noticed any difference in my marks with High School vs. University – if anything my ability to write essays has improved, as have other academic qualities. I don’t see this as a product of testosterone, more age and maturity.

how does T affects your body type? I’m an ectomorph, and I’ve been considering into going ftm for a long time, and I’m curious if T would make me very muscular, because I’m not really willing to get rid of my natural skinny body. (sorry if this sound really stupid)

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Personally, Testosterone did not affect my body type. I’m a mesomorph and was also before I began testosterone, just a little less able to build muscle. In the first few years of T, I put on a bit of mass – kind of like “puppy fat”, it was mainly water retention which my body sorted out on it’s own.

Honestly, if you’re very worried about this you should speak to a Doctor about possible side effects of Testosterone; it’s not a given that you will experience T the same as another person – it’s all down to genetics.
Perhaps you need to really question why it is that you want Testosterone – you mentioned you were “considering going ftm” – this is not a decision, really. It’s something I felt I had to do in order to survive.

If you were on a deserted island for the rest of your life with no one else; would you still transition?
Can you see yourself as “female” for the rest of your life, even if it’s uncomfortable?

Changes mentally and emotionally since T?

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That’s quite a lot to remember. I’ve been on T for approximately 7 (or 8? ffs, I should check, I have it written down somewhere) years.
Mentally I am more confidant, even though my self-esteem is still dismal; it’s improved exponetially. I noticed my anger changed, when I get angry now it feels much more intense than previously, however I get over things a lot faster.
Emotionally I would say a fair bit has changed, crying being the most prominent example. Pre T I would burst into tears in difficult/sad/emotional situations, often unable to control it. It was cathartic to have access to the ability to cry. I don’t have that anymore, and it’s often physically painful. I want to be able to cry, but I’m lucky if I get a single salty tear.
The other week, I blubbered like a baby – the first time in many years. It was most certainly needed.

I’m not even sure if this answered your question adequately enough, however it was a little vauge.
What do you mean by emotional/mental changes, so to speak?

It’s also a long time since I’ve experienced many non-physical aspects of transition; I often forget what has changed.

I have severe needle phobia and I was just wondering because I’m almost certain that I should transition…

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Yeah, I’d say you would be better off going to therapy to overcome your needle phobia, or have your doctor do the shots for you. As another guy said, oral testosterone is harsh on your liver (as is injectable, but far far less so).

Think of it this way, you’ll not only be working to overcome a phobia but you will also be doing the best by your liver.