Early thirties post-transition stealth Father and Husband
Hahaha, this kind of defeats the purpose of being completely and utterly stealth. I don’t have a youtube – nor will I ever.
I have answered your question already, though – in my FAQ which can be accessed on the side of my page.
Long story short: My Son was so not phased by it at all – he hardly brings it up and often doesn’t even remember.
Ask me questions to cure my boredom/aid in my procrastination.
Job interview went really well, I’ll find out some time this week if I was successful. I sure hope I was.
Life here has been ridiculously hectic. Cleaning the old house and unpacking the new one, leaves us living in the middle of chaos.
K is doing really well, though – despite our attentions being placed on logistics rather than family time.
In K’s world – life is amazing. He got himself a girlfriend. Or rather, she asked him out – and it’s actually adorable. On the day they began “dating”, he waited for her after school in order to open the school gate for her.
Despite all the disruptions, we still managed to sit around the fire pit last night and toast some marshmallows, which K absolutely adores (who doesn’t!?).
I even got to sharpen my axe for the occasion, as we had no chopped wood. I love splitting wood.
I’m still alive! Haha. I’ve been super busy moving house (again!), working and preparing for my dream job interview this coming weekend.
Things are chugging along quite nicely here in the country.
Little K seems to have more of an attitude now, and we’re getting into obnoxious territory but my Wife is amazing at handling these things so I let her take the reigns.
Anyhow – don’t hesitate to ask questions. I’ll answer them, it may just take a day or so.
My Gen1 peecock seems to be on it’s last legs. Bit unfortunate, but I have had this thing for a couple of years and used it every single day, so I’d say that’s a good track record.
Looks like I’ll need to invest in the Gen2 at some stage.
I hate adjusting to a new packer, even if it’s the same model as a previous one. They always need a “wearing in” period – like a new pair of shoes almost.
Posts about lack of dysphoria recently and ways I have avoided it >> becomes severely dysphoric the week after said post.
Karma’s a bitch.
Official Trailer for Australian Movie “52 Tuesdays”.
Powerful.
I don’t have to think about it each time I use the bathroom because I use an STP (peecock) for which I do not have to touch my natal anatomy. I pull out my dick and pee.
It’s gotten to the point where I don’t even actually remember that cis males don’t have to do the thing that I do when I use the bathroom (use an STP).
I honestly just don’t even remember that I don’t have the “right” junk downstairs unless I’m showering or washing my STP. It does then give me a fair amount of dysphoria, I will admit, but it’s no where near the “reminding me every single second” that I used to suffer through.
Now I suffer what I call bouts of dysphoria, and in general actually forget that I am not a cis male.
Whereas previously I would remember about every ten seconds and be in somewhat of a constant dysphoric flux.
Edited to add more:
Alongside this; I have been with my (now) Wife for almost ten years; when we are intimate there is no disconnect between my body and my mind, because of the way she interacts with it. This relieves/lessens some dysphoria, I feel.
I wanted to post about something, to make something abundantly clear:
I don’t even remember I am trans/think about it in daily life.
There are some exceptions to that rule; dysphoric bouts, family bringing it up, self doubt, anxiety and depression. But for the most part – I live carefree, knowing I am 100% male in everything I do.
I don’t think about my past. It’s just that – the past. Sometimes people have history they’d rather not remember or speak about. And that’s how I view mine.
Have hope, there is life after transition. And it’s beautiful.
I agree wholeheartedly;
there is no “secret” to be told. At all. Disclosure – especially to your children – is a very personal thing. If I had the choice over; I probably would still choose to disclose. My own Son was very, very confused about his own body in relation to my own – among many other reasons.
I feel as though me being trans has absolutely nothing to do with how I raise (or would raise) children, nor does it hold any baring on how I am as a human being in general.
I apologize if I didn’t answer your question properly.
Yes, I would choose to disclose if I had the option. I can’t quite articulate why I feel that way, though, and I know before my status was disclosed to him I was adamant he’d never know until he was older, if at any time.
It’s had no reflection on how he treats me. He still refers to his conception as though I was involved – “When your sperm met Mum’s egg and I was created….” and we don’t correct him. He knows what’s up.
Any other parents want to weigh in?
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