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Bottom surgery experiences

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anonimotrans:

(I’ve shared this list in the past, but now it has a few more links, I’ve removed links to websites that don’t exist anymore, and I’ve ordered them by surgeon.)

Original post that I update whenever I find new links: http://transexualidadftm.blogspot.com.es/2013/07/recopilacion-de-blogs-sobre.html

Phalloplasty:

Dr. F. G. Bouman, Netherlands:

Dr. Curtis Crane, United States:

London Team, (Dr. Christopher, Dr. Ralp), United Kingdom:

Dr. Sukit, Thailand:

Dr. Brassard, Canada:

Dr. Salgado, United States:

Dr. Monstrey y Dr. Hoebeke, Belgium:

Dr. Bernard Liedl, Germany:

Dr. Miroslav Djordjevic, Serbia:

Others:

From YouTube:

Dr. Curtis Crane, United States:

Dr. Jurgen Schaff, Germany:

London Team (Dr. Christopher, Dr. Ralph), United Kingdom:

 

Metoidioplasty:

Dr. Miroslav Djordjevic, Serbia:

Dr. Perovic (deceased) / Sava Perovic Team, Serbia:

London Team (Dr. Christopher, Dr. Ralph), United Kingdom:

Dr. Medalie, United States:

Dr. Marci Bowers, United States:

Others:

From YouTube:

Dr. Marci Bowers, United States:

Dr. McGinn, United States:

Dr. Brassard, Canada:

Dr. Miroslav Djordjevic, Serbia:

Dr. Curtis Crane, United States:


For more experiences and results I recommend these links (they require you to sign up, and you need to apply for membership first in the groups):

Important and Helpful Links

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drakensberg:

Bottom Surgery (NSFW):

Top Surgery:

Hormones:

Binding:

Packing/Harnesses:

General:

Coming Out:

Dressing Up:

Exercises:

Passing:

Hello! My girlfriend came out to me as trans a few weeks ago. I love and support him no matter what. We’ve already discussed some things pertaining to transitioning to male even though he isn’t quite sure if he wants to go through with it or not. There is one thing I feel like I need to ask someone who has already been through it. What have been things your wife has done to help you transition?

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Hey,

It’s awesome that you’re so supportive of your boyfriend. Good for you and good for him!

Things that my Wife does to help me go far beyond transition, but off the top of my head I would say valuable transition-related help has come in the way of:

  • Making awkward appointments at gynecological specialists for me when I needed my hysto.
  • Sensing when I am dysphoric and allowing me space, comfort and time to heal.
  • She gives me my testosterone – I take Reandron (4ml of liquid) and it’s far too intense for me to self inject in my thigh – which is where I prefer to do shots when I do them myself. She does them in my buttocks.
  • She took care of me after my various surgeries.

The list is seemingly endless now that I think about it. I couldn’t have done this without my Wife.

What do you suggest for a guy who’s beginning to feel like it’s probably best to just give up? Everything feels hopeless and unattainable right now, and I can’t keep living the way I am…. I feel horrible.

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Ugh, my answer didn’t show up.

Hey man, firstly I’d like to commend you on your bravery regarding reaching out to someone. It’s often the most difficult step to take.

Secondly, here’s a list of worldwide crisis help lines which you might like to keep handy in case there’s no one you feel as though you can speak to. These people are specifically trained and will even be able to refer you to people in your local area sometimes.

Finally, I can attest that it does and can get better. I have been down many a dark road in my time thus far, and even took a very dark path where I attempted to take my own life.
I am living proof that people like us can get through this shit.

Hang in there man.

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Tumblr user ftmanonimo replied to the previous post regarding long-term hormone effects with this lovely study. Peer reviewed, no less!

This is exactly the kind of article I was looking for – but it still can’t give a conclusive answer due to, and I quote “… solid clinical data are(sic) lacking”.

I’d love to see more, hopefully this study sparked an interest. It was published in a reputable journal.

Thanks so much for sharing.

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Okay, as promised here’s a couple of photographs of the underwear which has a built in packing pocket. Well, it’s just how they’re made – not specifically for trans guys or anything however they work quite well.

As far as I know these are only avaliable in Australia.
Big W stores more specifically.

And yes, I did use a pillow as an underwear model. Shh.

Apologies for the oversized faded briefs used here, I don’t personally use these type of underpants anymore although I did for quite a number of years. I wear these type when going to the gym or swimming, though – they make me feel more secure.

I couldn’t find a photo of the packaging for the Men’s version of the multipack briefs pictured, however I found a photograph of the Boy’s briefs in the Allsorts brand, and the packaging looks much the same.

In a recent post you mentioned some underpants with an inbuilt packer pouch. I was wondering if you knew of the brand? I’m totally interested! Thanks!

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I posted a photo here pertaining to the Alpha Male brand underpants that are useful for this.

There’s also another cheaper brand called “Allsorts" and I think you get them from K-Mart in Australia. They are briefs (kind of like speedos) and have two layers of fabric which form a “pouch" when you cut a horizontal hole a few inches beneath the waistband inside the underwear.

That doesn’t make much sense, when I’m procrastinating at some stage today I’ll try to take photos of the second kind of underwear.

Having said all of that; I simply shove my packy in a pair of underpants and away I go. Silicone is great for that.

Being Stealth is Not Being Ashamed

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thepolitesir:

There’s a huge shitstorm right now because some dumb ass therapist is equating trans people being stealth with them being ashamed of themselves and inside the closet and shit like that. He is also assuming that stealth trans people can do absolutely nothing for their communities. This is so fucking far from the truth that I just want to scream and shit out a cinderblock or something to throw at the corner of his house.

  1. Being trans doesn’t make up my entire identity. Yes, it assisted greatly in making me the man that I am today, and it gave me a certain set of unique issues to work through and various problems that I’ll need to face and overcome, but when I think of myself, I don’t describe myself as just being a trans guy. I describe myself as intelligent, resourceful, patient, kind, and stubborn. Those are the traits that make up -who- I am, and that’s all anyone but my medical professionals and significant other, and anyone else I deem worthy enough needs to know. 
  2. Being stealth is not the same as being closeted. I live in Texas, so in part, being stealth for me is used as a safety measure. On the other hand, it’s basic comfort. I want to be viewed as who I am, not targeted and oggled because of something about me. I like getting through the day without being asked invasive questions about things I don’t want to think about.
  3. I am not hiding anything about myself. The people who need to know are aware that I’m trans. That’s it. Nothing is hidden. 
  4. I am perfectly capable of educating people without having to reveal my trans status. With the assload of studying and life experience I have with all of these issues, it’s safe to say that if I see people having a conversation about it and they have questions that they can’t come to an agreement on, I could easily find some way to explain a foreign concept to them without having to come right out and tell them, “by the way something whacko happened when I was born lol.”
  5. I am not ashamed of being trans. As I stated in point 1, a large part of the reason I am who I am today is because of the things I’ve had to go through as a result of being trans. I’m not really proud of being trans, but I am proud of myself for coming as far as I have and enduring all of the shit that comes with this condition, as I am similarly proud of myself for overcoming other extremely daunting obstacles in my life. To have worked so fucking hard to get to a point where I’m remotely okay with myself and my accomplishments, I would be pretty fucking pissed if, for the rest of my life, I could only ever be viewed as one thing, instead of the dynamic, strong individual that I am.

It makes me really, really fucking sad that a THERAPIST doesn’t understand these things.

Being stealth is just fucking fine, as is being loud&out. It’s up to the individual to make that choice, and it really fucking bothers me that people are trying to bash on others who live differently than they do. Frankly, it’s none of your business if someone doesn’t want to be out&loud, they don’t have to be that way to be a ‘good trans activist person’ or whatever. There are a metric ton of things that stealth people have done that you don’t hear about because they’re fucking stealth.

my god.

TL:DR basically don’t be a stealth-shaming dick.