Early thirties post-transition stealth Father and Husband
Do you feel you have become more agressive on T?
I guess this is a difficult question to answer; personally I can attest to the change in senation of anger itself. It is far more easy to access nowdays comparatively speaking, but that’s not to say I can’t control it because I most certainly can.
I think how we experience emotions changes when starting HRT, but how you respond to your emotions doesn’t have to.
I’m going to have even less time than I already do to update here, so I’m putting out a call for Questions I can answer at my own pace to keep content rolling in.
I’m almost certain I have answered this before, but I can’t seem to find it so it warrants another go.
My Wife and I met via a conference in the top end of Australia; both our universities had sent us there and from first sight, we were both smitten.
I spent the entire conference with her, every second, and we began a long-distance relationship after we returned to our seperate states.
It took me two months to realise I needed to move to be with her, and I did.
I proposed to her about 6 months into our relationship, and she said yes.
We have been together for 10 years, and married for 3 years. We waited so long for the actual wedding as I was not yet legally male and still had to have my hysto etc.
This has now been added to the FAQ.
Kik: transmandad.
I am bored and now logged into this kik. Entertain me, please?
Hey man.
Thank you for the kind words.
You’re most certainly not alone, and feel free to message me any time you aren’t feeling great. It may take me a while to respond, because I’m super busy but I do read every single ask that comes into my box.
You future is going to happen regardless of whether you lay there worrying about it, I promise. It’s difficult to just “let go” but ultimately – that’s the best thing to do. I know it’s hard.
Distraction is a great therapy for a worried mind. I use this tactic all the time and it’s brilliant for us stress heads; check out something that makes your heart flutter, or your mind whizz, or watch cute cat videos on youtube, or watch a super interesting documentary.
This hasn’t been very helpful and I do apologize, but feel free to contact me any time you feel the need.
Coming out is a very personal and intimate process, but there are several ways in which to come out and “lessen” the impact in can have on you directly.
I suggest writing a thorough coming out letter – it allows you to speak your mind without getting interrupted, and gives the reader an opportunity for information to sink in.
For what it’s worth, HERE is my “coming out” post.
Hey fightingweakness – I’m a big fan.
I think I have answered this before, here.
And two years later, our position is exactly the same.
I think between the two of us, I am the “cluckier” one – I dote on friend’s and family’s babies tremendously, and moosh over tiny shoes and outfits in stores. My Wife thinks this is absolutely adorable, but we still haven’t changed our minds.
This is a very lovely sentiment, thank you.
I am the lucky one. I certainly count my blessings.
My life is by far from perfect in every sense of the word, but it’s about as close as one could possibly get.
The Wife and I have spoken recently about the large amount of questions/asks we get about “how” to find love.
It makes both of us really sad that a ton of trans people are under the impression they’ll have to settle for someone who loves them, or that they may never find that in the first place.
No, stop.
You will find someone who is right for you. It may seem stupid, but I honestly believe there is someone (perhaps even multiple people) out there for everyone. It might be more difficult in the beggining because as trans people, we don’t tend to allow ourselves enough room to love our physical apperance without a lot of work and dedication, but that doesn’t mean it’s impossible.
It’s also spurred conversation about how we might be able to take a non-identifying “family photo” of sorts. Perhaps of the back of us, perhaps in a location no where near where we reside. Perhaps it will never happen at all, but there’s been discussion around it.
I had two questions about this, one Anon and one not – so I’ve chosen to answer the Anon one in case the other was meant for private conversation.
So the best possible way I have found to wrangle the FreeTom is; a snug pair of briefs with a fly hole… the one you can poke your dick through. Put the prosthesis against yourself, slip the shaft through the snug briefs hole and then put your regular underwear over the top. I know it’s not ideal because there’s two pairs of jocks – but it’s the “safest” and most discreet way I’ve found to pack with the FreeTom that still allows STP function. In fact, I find when I do this I don’t actually have to hold the prosthesis to me when I pee – the snug underpants do the job just fine. Adjustments may be had throughout the day if it slips a little – but bio guys have to adjust thier junk too.
transmandad 