Early thirties post-transition stealth Father and Husband
I’m curious. You know how they say hair grows back faster and darker the more often you shave… Is that true for facial hair for pre-T? Or would I just be wasting my time if I started shaving?
Regardless of being trans or not, this is simply just a fallacy. Shaving does not cause hair to grow back darker or thicker.
Here’s a link explaining it, but basically hair feels tougher and thicker after it’s cut simply by the act of the cutting itself.
Today I had to take K to a class I had due to circumstances beyond my control. He was ridiculously excited to attend a lecture, enthralled with the magnitude of the library and kept saying “I can’t wait to go to University!”.
In short, it was probably the cutest thing ever.
Yeah, I’d say you would be better off going to therapy to overcome your needle phobia, or have your doctor do the shots for you. As another guy said, oral testosterone is harsh on your liver (as is injectable, but far far less so).
Think of it this way, you’ll not only be working to overcome a phobia but you will also be doing the best by your liver.
My father in law takes a form of testosterone in pill form for his low t condition, when I inquired with my GP about this, he said the efficacy of the pills versus injections was drastically different and that it wouldn’t work for me. I’m not sure what the pills were called but they worked on increasing testosterone production in the testes, which I do not have.
Lazlo Pearlman is a creator, performer, director, lecturer and teacher whose work is often but not always generated by his FTM transgendered experience. He has been making performances since he was ten. First inspired by an obsession with black and white musicals, comedies and film noir, he has made his way through (and returned to) many performance forms including physical theatre, performance art, installations, cabaret, burlesque, vaudeville, fetish shows, camp/parody, clowning, film/video and even the occasional piece of “straight” theatre. Lazlo holds a Master’s degree in Physical Theatre, has created four one person shows, dozens of short solo works, written and directed short films, and he has collaborated with and directed many other performing artists.
One of the Jew Girls in the jazz- performance-art-comedy group “Sister Theresa and the All Jew Girl Band”, Lazlo also starred as a lead singer and bass player for such bands as the reggae/ska Small Axe, wave/punk bands Skinny Wires and Jezebel’s Kiss. He adapted and directed an oddly gendered and award-winning version of the Douglas Sirk/Ross Hunter/Lana Turner movie Madame X; and a surrealist The Wonderful, Horrible Life of Lawrence Welk; and a series of fantasy/nightmare performances for the fetish balls of Seattle. He has taught his workshops and given lectures in the US, Canada, France, Italy, Germany and the United Kingdom.
Most recent projects include the new show “Dance Me to the End of Love,” a work exploring love, exposure, the trans body, intimacy, vulnerability and partnering and using the strip, dance, performance art and audience participation; and the feature length documentary on his work “Fake Orgasm,” (Directed by Jo Sol and produced by Zip Films and Executive Produced by Killer Films and Christing Vachon), currently touring festivals worldwide and taking him along with it whenever possible. At age 30 he transitioned and directed the female-to-male comedy short, “Unhung Heroes”, 2002. His short film “Unhung Heroes,” the first comedy about not having a dick, is available through Frameline Distribution and is viewable online. He is currently located in London.
Link to Lazlo Pearlman’s Vimeo and online viewing of Unhung Heroes HERE. I’m planning on giving it a watch when K is in bed.
Here’s some information from Nick’s blog on the matter: Here and Here.
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I do feel as though a back brace might restrict your breathing/compress your rib cage too much. Basically if you can’t breathe or feel your ribs hurting – it’s far too tight. I would always err on the side of caution; this is your body and health we are talking about. Use a proper binder.
I never used anything other than really small sports bras or underworks binders.
Once again folks, feel free to answer this too!
I’m really sorry to hear this and I can sympathize, I was in a similar situation although not quite as big chested as you.
I’m assuming you’ve tried various types of binders, layering etc? If none of that even helped at all, I really feel for you. For what it’s worth; I used an underworks double front compression back in the day, used to grab my chest and pull it out toward my armpits and down at the same time, then fold the lower half of the double binder back up onto itself. The last step I found was really the key in getting me to look flatter. I then put a singlet (tank) over the top and whatever shirt I was going to wear that day.
Please please try not to bind too tightly, you can seriously damage yourself and your future surgery results. I know it can be tempting especially when you are big chested and it’s not working – but please keep that in mind.
As for money ideas, I’m all for raising money by selling unwanted things on ebay, trading talents for cash such as artwork etc, creating a small buisness. I eventually fell into a credit card which was the only way I was able to afford surgery, but I highly suggest avoiding this at all costs. I’m still paying it off to this day.
Do any followers have anything they’d like to chip in?
I hope things get better, anon.
Random influx of new followers; feel free to ask stuff.
Hey,
Coming out is really tough, so congrats for making that really big decision. There are a few sparse links dedicated to coming out that can be found here but I’m not sure if they’d be useful to you or not.
I can understand why you’d be scared to come out to co-workers in the environment you work in, those blokes can be pretty blunt and tactless when it comes to digesting issues they aren’t familiar with.
I think the best thing to do would be to approach your manager or supervisor and have them help you figure out the best way to deal with coming out to co-workers.
One thing I can tell you is that coming out as trans was probably one of the most difficult things I’ve ever had to do in my life, but it was exponentially worth it.
Good luck!
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