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In a recent post you mentioned some underpants with an inbuilt packer pouch. I was wondering if you knew of the brand? I’m totally interested! Thanks!

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I posted a photo here pertaining to the Alpha Male brand underpants that are useful for this.

There’s also another cheaper brand called “Allsorts" and I think you get them from K-Mart in Australia. They are briefs (kind of like speedos) and have two layers of fabric which form a “pouch" when you cut a horizontal hole a few inches beneath the waistband inside the underwear.

That doesn’t make much sense, when I’m procrastinating at some stage today I’ll try to take photos of the second kind of underwear.

Having said all of that; I simply shove my packy in a pair of underpants and away I go. Silicone is great for that.

FTM Social Support Group.

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So yesterday I went to a local support group for older trans men.

I was really fucking nervous, changed like five times and put too much cologne on. Didn’t cut my head when shaving though, so bonus.

My friend who runs it came and picked me up, he’s in his mid 60’s and only transitioned about 4 years ago. Good dude, heaps odd though because he’s like a teenage boy in the body of an old man with a beard. hah.

Arrived and no one else was there, so my friend W who runs the group shouted me a beer and we grabbed a table away from the one or two other patrons in the bar. Within minutes two other guys arrived; J1 and J2. They were much older than me, although they didn’t look it because neither had begun T yet. After another short while a final guy came, V. He was maybe 5 years older than myself and beaming because he’d just gone on a first date. We all playfully ribbed him about it and ordered more beers.

There wasn’t much trans talk at all, which was awesome. We mentioned the one psych in our town who is able to help guys get their T letters, and how horrible he is with confidentiality, but that we’ve all seen him out of necessity. I spoke a bit about my balding and how long it took to get as bald as I am now. There was also some talk about underpants which are very cheap and also happen to have an inbuilt packer pouch.

Other than that it was; Relationships, Girlfriends/Wives, Football, Work, Me Moving.

It was really validating for me to be around a bunch of blokes that were just…blokes. Just happened to be trans too. And what’s more is that there’s a few of the older dudes who just can’t medically transition due to  medical issues, work issues, family issues etc. The only time they get to be called their real names and “he” is in this fortnightly group. I could see the appreciation on some of the guy’s faces when we referred to each other. Something so simple can be someone’s life line.

All in all, 10/10 would recommend. Will go again.

Giant Update of DOOM.

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So, I’ve been ridiculously busy as of late and haven’t had the time to sit down properly and update.

  • K took our friend’s death really well; he was most concerned about our friend’s children who don’t have their Daddy anymore. He wanted to attend the funeral, and it was his first. I was absolutely gone that day; can’t remember much of it and I wasn’t even drinking. It was a lovely service and my Friend would have loved the fact that we tried to wear his favorite football team colors.
  • On the drive home from the funeral K decided it was an awesome time to ask ever so innocently “So, Dad, when you were born a girl… what was it like? What was the hardest thing?” – Fuck! Okay, let’s do this. I answered honestly and although I felt I did a half-assed job, my Wife said I did brilliantly.
  • My Family is moving to a rural area; my Wife applied for a great job “just to see” and she got it immediately. We’ve decided she should take it, rent in the town for six or so months and then we will buy a house and land.
  • K is excited; his four cousins, Aunt and Uncle as well as Grandmother currently live in this small town. He’s upset at having to leave his friends here but we’ve set up some packs for his friends including Self Addressed Stamped Envelopes, his Email address, his Phone number, his Xbox Live Gamertag, Skype login and Steam username. This way his friends can still contact him.
  • I have one semester of my current degree to go, which equates to approximately 13 weeks of attendance. I will be staying here to finish my degree, renting with a friend in a house he owns. It’s going to be one of the hardest things I’ve ever had to do, but it means realizing our dream of owning a house. I’m also doing a little over a full course load to finish in one semester, so I’ll be fucking busy.
  • K is most excited about the prospect of getting a dog. The rental my Wife and K will be staying in is not only almost half of what we currently pay/week but it also allows pets of any kind, and it’s not through an agent – private renal. Bonus.
  • Wife’s new job is less hours, same pay, easier job with a “better” recognized company.

So, not sure what else has been happening… we decided for sure we are moving two days ago and in that time we have literally packed 17 full boxes and a half dozen almost filled. We own a lot of shit.

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So much has been happening and I don’t even have time to blog it properly.
My Wife got a new job, we are moving to the middle of nowhere to buy a house after renting for six months to make sure we like the area and jobs. I’ll have to stay here for 13 weeks to finish my current degree….intense.
So much is happening in such a short amount of time.

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I took K to the park to fly his remote control helicopter. Kid is a pro; last one he had I literally crash landed it on the neighbours roof because I have that much skill.

I’ve got so much shit to write about on here and like, 0 motivation to sit down and write a proper post.

Hi there, I hope to one day be a dad( I am a transguy) and I was curious what the biggest shock for you?

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Hrm, the biggest shock…

In terms of being a Father, I’m assuming? Correct me if I’m wrong.
I’ve been thinking about this for a good amount of time, I deliberately didn’t answer it right away so I could make sure I answered this properly, but for the life of me I can’t think of what was the most “shocking" of all things.

I met K for the first time and literally ten minutes later he’d soiled his nappy (diaper?) – I volunteered immediately; I knew I’d better get the “firsts" over and done with ASAP because this child now depended on me, too, and I needed to give it my all. I wasn’t repulsed, I wasn’t grossed out – I had no clue what I was doing but my Wife talked me through it and everything went smoothly.
My Wife, then girlfriend, was shocked to say the very least. Any other man that had been in K’s life (as a byproduct of being in my Wife’s life) was vehemently opposed to doing anything remotely paternal in fear my Wife would seek thier commitment. Imbeciles.
Her ex boyfriend literally would not watch K while my Wife took ten minutes to have a shower – she would set K in up his high chair in the bathroom with her with a rusk and a few toys and watch him while she showered.

So; the biggest shock for me was how naturally I handled it all, and how easily it all came after the initial adjustment. More than anything, I was very shocked by how thankful and appreciative, incredulous almost, my Wife was of the things I was doing to try and learn and support them both.
To me, that’s just what a human should do if they love someone.