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Freetom Prosthetics 4-in-1 Pleasure/Play review.

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NSFW.

I have used the Freetom Prosthesis for play a couple of times since I received the product. There might not be much new information below that wasn’t covered in the video, but as requested here’s a write-up review of the sexual functions.

Fit with a harness.
I use a Rodeoh harness; it’s easier to put on than most others and feels the most minimal and natural in the way there are no straps or adjustable buckles present.
The Freetom looked wider in girth than my previous pack and play, so I didn’t know if it would fit in the Rodeoh’s modest O-ring. It did however, and I was able to place the balls inside the underwear pouch itself, so the prosthesis rests against me and the dick comes out through the aforementioned o-ring hole. This made the “pleasure ridge” aspects actually function, as otherwise there would be a layer of material between myself and the prosthesis.

Use.
This is pretty straight-forward; it works very well. The rod doesn’t want to bend out of shape easily, so it accommodates rough play well. The silicone skin I have been informed feels exceptionally realistic to the recipient, and the size is “just right”.
I felt very connected to this prosthesis during sex. There was minimal mind/body disconnect, unlike when using other prosthesis which might have to be adjusted during sex thus intensifying my dysphoria. The Freetom just stayed put, due to the undersized Rodeoh I use most likely.
The pleasure ridges thing did work intermittently, but the natural er..momentum of having sex means that it’s kind of a sporadic friction, and your natal dick can move out of the “channel” so to speak. Either way, I actually did get stimulation from the little pleasure ridges. Nice touch.

Cleaning.
As with all prosthesis, especially ones I urinate through – I wear a condom during sex.
It ensures cleanliness and hygiene for the prosthesis as well as for your partner.
Clean up simply entails removal of the condom followed by a thorough clean of the prosthesis to remove excess lubricant and possible sneaky bodily fluids – this is the same process as other men. You simply have to clean your dick after you’re done having sex. It’s a thing.

Overall.
I wasn’t dissatisfied with my previous sexual prosthesis, nor was my Wife. I guess it’s true that you don’t know any better until you get something that works better for you. That’s what the Freetom is for me; a large upgrade in the sexual prosthesis department in terms of realistic skin feel, size and mind/body connect. I’d love the skin tone to match a little more, however having sex in full natural light is something that happens rarely, so it’s not noticeable.

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I’m not sure if I’ve answered this type of question previously or not, so I’ll give it another go.

K has difficulty peeing standing up. Well, that’s not entirely true – he just prefers to sit. I often lament this is because I occasionally sit at home and he’s seen me, but despite having his grandfather literally school him on peeing standing at our request – the kid still feels more comfortable sitting.

I can’t blame him to be honest, I mean it’s much more comfortable.

I didn’t feel comfortable showing him how to pee standing up because I felt my prosthetic wasn’t realistic enough and there would be awkward questions.

He pees standing in times such as camping, car trips, side of the road emergency pee-stops and the like. He is very able to pee standing, he just simply chooses not to!

Go figure.

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Went ahead and ordered the freetom prosthesis, exciting!

Will let you know when it arrives. I live in the middle of nowhere, Australia so I’m expecting it to take a good while.

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Alright so I’m ordering my freetom prosthesis this coming Thursday, will take a while to make and ship so when it arrives I’ll do a review on my first impressions, then I’ll use it for a week and report back.
My wife marriedtoatransman also says she will report back on how she feels the use for sexual purposes is – without too much detail haha.

Reblog from the Wife

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marriedtoatransman:

Sorry for the absence, I am not a very creative writer and have been unsure of what to write about so please, suggest topics!

Today in Australia it is RUOK? Day. This day is designed to encourage people to openly discuss mental health and to remind us to check in on our fellow humans.

In my experience people who are Trans or gender diverse have higher levels of mental health concerns, not because of their gender but because of societies push for the binary, to pigeon hole you into a gender role and to ensure you adhere to its stereotypes. This negatively impacts on society as a whole and is something I have witnessed with Little K and with TMD.

We live in rural Australia where men are men and the women obey…. well that’s definitely how it feels sometimes. I find it disturbing how in this town men are expected to be stereotypically masculine and have seen TMD struggle with his personal beliefs as a feminist and the pressure to conform to what locals expect of him. I too struggle with this as I’m a strong, proud woman who doesn’t like people doing things for me that I can do for myself and yet at the same time, I know that by allowing TMD to do “masculine” things for me, it gives him a sense of manly-ness and also impacts on how others view him.

Little K has been raised to know that gender is social construct and that what he likes does not have to be restricted by what is traditionally boys or girls. Unfortunately due to the stigma and real fears for his safety, we have had to tell Little K to not disclose his love of My Little Pony to his country friends. I do hope that Little K does not internalise this as we have told him it is because the culture of this town and the lack of social progression but still, as a parent, I worry.

I remember when I started at my local job, my boss insisted on having one blue chair for boys and a pink one for girls and I tried to open a dialogue about the social construction of gender and the horrendous pressure this puts on children to which she replied “please don’t liberate me today”. This to me is indicative of how locals see gender and enforce their views on my family.

I do have to giggle though, as to outsiders, I am such a “traditional” woman. I love to cook, sew, crochet, garden, dance, sing, create and genuinely love caring for and nurturing my family. It wasn’t until I let go of the construct of female with which I was raised that I was able to truly explore and enjoy these traditionally feminine past times without feeling like I was perpetuating a stereotype.

So on this RUOK? Day, I ask are you OK? Do you do the things you want because they make you happy or are you trying to fit an uncomfortable social construct that isn’t you?

Isolation.

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It’s a funny thing when you finally get what you want. There’s always something more to aim for, something more to “get”.

That’s what I’m finding lately; besides lower surgery, which seems unobtainable until we buy a house and pay off the mortgage – I feel as though I’ve arrived at the state of simply male.

Yet I find myself yearning for contact with other guys like me, even though each and every single time I’ve been to a group or something specifically for the category of man in which I reside – something nags at me the entire time and I find myself leaving frustrated.

I don’t quite know how to articulate the feelings I’ve been having, but I can hear quiet echoes of my sentiments ebb and flow across tumblr. This is comforting, albeit sad.

In a town where even gay people go “stealth” – for thier literal saftey as much as piece of mind – this whole rigamarole feels wrong. Ungrateful somehow?

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So, thanks for all the really useful feedback regarding my concerns sourounding creating a youtube channel.

I think when I get my hands on a freetom prosthesis, I’ll make a video utilizing a lot of the ideas you all gave me. I won’t show my face, I’ll obscure my voice using software and I’ll basically just do a straight review.

Alongside this, I’ll also do a written and pictoral review here.

My Wife has also offered to do a small write up regarding the sexual functions of said prosthetic when it’s been used accordingly.

Loving Someone with Dysphoria

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journeyintomanhood:

Whether it be a partner, child, friend, or parent watching any loved one suffer is difficult. Watching someone you love struggle with dysphoria can be extremely heart-wrenching and you may find yourself wondering what you can do or say to make it better. Here are some tips I’ve compiled based on my own experiences. 

Know you cannot fix it or make it go away 
As great at it would be there is nothing a person can say to make dysphoria simply go away. You might be able to help temporarily relieve it but it will not go away. 

Listen 
Listen to your loved one. Listen to them rant. To them cry. To them be angry. Listen. Be a safe place to listen to them. You don’t need to offer advice or solutions or reply with profound words of wisdom. You can simply be there to listen. 

Do What They Ask 
If they have asked you to use certain pronouns or a chosen name or avoid certain words to describe them, etc. then do it. It might be hard for you to adjust but you need to do it. Remember it’s not about you but it is about them. Do what they need you to do. 

Treat them as People 
Just because they are suffering from dysphoria does not mean they are not people with a variety of emotions, experiences, and personality traits. Make sure you treat as the person they are. Pay attention to all parts of their life and don’t treat them as fragile all the time. They are not their dysphoria. That is simply part of their experience.