Congrats! This is a monumental step, and you should be super proud of yourself.

Your parents will come around; it took mine about 3 years.

dont-ever-show-weakness:

The only thing that really triggers dysphoria for me these days is looking up people I knew (or knew of) way back from my LiveJournal days. It always turns into one of those “compared to these guys I look like a chick” nights. I was never popular with my online peers and it wasn’t for lack of trying. I think it kind of forces me to revisit the alienation on top of everything else.

I just need to go to bed and bury my head back in my denial. My life isn’t always perfect but it goes on and I’ll live.

I can relate to this on a deep level.

anonimotrans:

dont-ever-show-weakness:

bravelittletran:

transmandad:

Patience! You’re super young. Over time your metabolism will slow down and it’ll become easier to hold weight.

It sounds like one of those cliche things too, but everyone is different.

I’ve been on testosterone for just over 3.5 years and my facial hair wasn’t anything to write home about until late last year. I have a cousin a year older than me who couldn’t grow any facial hair to speak of until he was 24-25 (he’s 28 now). Alternatively, my dad could grow facial hair at 12, and yet I otherwise take almost entirely after him. 

I didn’t have a decent amount of hair until year 5. Even then it took a few more years for my cheek hair to start coming in. Over a decade in and it’s still coming in slowly. A year is just a drop in the bucket.

I think we tend to see all these comparison pictures of guys with impressive changes after a year on testosterone and we think that’s how everyone changes. It’s pretty normal to still have a young looking face a year on testosterone, and for facial hair development to be slow. Think about how long it takes cis guys to start getting decent facial hair with puberty. I’m 22, three years on testosteorne, and I still look 16-18 and despite having hair all over my face it’s all weak enough that I can’t grow a proper beard.

Also, some people (cis and trans) just have a fast metabolism and have trouble putting on weight (be it fat or muscle) even when they’re eating more. You can try eating more calories, use some calculator online to find out how much calories you need to achieve the weight you want taking into account how active you are, but keep in mind that testosterone is no guarantee that you’ll be able to put on weight more easily than before. Many skinny cis guys struggle with that too, especially the ones that don’t have the apetite to eat above maintenance level.

For what it’s worth, I’m coming up to 11 years and am still finding my facial hair is thickening in previously more sparse regions.

I was scared – it was the biggest thing I’d ever done in my whole life at that point. Most people don’t talk about how scary taking that first step can feel, but for me it was terrifying.

It was also the first major decision I’d made on my own as an adult that went “against” my parents wishes. It was an intense time, and looking back it was scary as hell!

It’s okay to be scared. I’d even say normal. But make sure you have support; someone to talk through your fears with. Someone to be there for you.

Patience! You’re super young. Over time your metabolism will slow down and it’ll become easier to hold weight.

It’s not my place to assume ignorance.
I like to give the benefit of doubt.

I can indeed 50-50, I just seem to slip out of bs smiths a lot. Although I will admit there’s not too many rails around these parts I can practise on… tiny rural town’s skatepark was designed by people who’ve obviously never stepped foot on a skateboard before. Horrid. 

Anyhow, thanks for the kind words and nice distraction. Have a great night yourself. 

You’re one up on me, BS smiths still allude me. 

I do love a good BS boardslide down a rail though, love that feeling. 

Yeah, there are a small handful. 

I try to limit these people a LOT though. The majority live a few hours away in a large city. 

Tricky. Black, grey, green.