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Happy New Year everyone!

K starts high school in two weeks. It’s freaking us all out! The school he chose (yep, we let kiddo choose from a bunch we thought were good) is amazing. Robotics lab, forensic science in years 11 and 12. Actually ridiculous, and I am very thankful we only have one child as it’s an enormous amount of money. 

He couldn’t go to the (only) local public high school for a plethora of reasons, the least of which being I have come across seniors who are unable to read. 
I’m fucking serious. 

Regardless, we had a great break. Mrs had some health issues which scared the living crap outta me (hospitalised for a while there, never life threatening), but Master K was kept at an arms length with friends and wasn’t aware of that. He has enough to deal with currently. 

Our homestead is coming along wonderfully. We’re already harvesting fruit and vegetables from the seeds we sowed when we first moved in. I love fresh tomatoes so very much. 

I really want to start testosterone. I’m 18 in March and I am out to family and friends but not publicly. I’m scared bc what if I shouldn’t start testosterone and what if I’m faking? How do I know? Also need to figure out before college

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Talk to a therapist. A lot. More. Nope, some more. 

If you have doubts, that’s exactly what a therapist is there to work through you with. 

Personally I had nothing to grapple with. It was either start Testosterone and hope things worked out, or kill myself. 

Hey! I saw you got a question about ec prosthetics. Despite their long wait time, this is my absolute favorite company. FreeTom can’t even compare. That might be because I like small packers, but it’s probably because their STP system is BOSS.

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Awesome information, super helpful. 

As explained in my initial review and subsequent reviews; I couldn’t ever pack with the Freetom as it was far too cumbersome for me. I never use it and really don’t like it. 

Loved my Peecock though; but was looking for more realism. 

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The one single thing I wanted to do on my time off (camping), and I’ve not allowed myself the time to indulge.

I feel guilty whenever I do something for myself.

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This morning we ran a few errands and now we don’t have to leave the house until after Christmas.
Thank goodness!

K is super excited, I watched him graduate grade 6 so next year he goes into High School which blows my mind.

Small update 👍

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My Father brought us the handmade reclaimed regum dining table he created for us yesterday.

It’s difficult to articulate just how important to me it is to have a piece created by my Dad while he’s still able. He’s lost all sensation in his right hand now, so he built the whole thing with his non dominant hand/arm.

Once we got it inside (fuck, redgum is heavy!) we sat around it the whole afternoon eating, chatting and having a few beers.

K will inherit this table, and it will outlive even his children.

On another note: the year is winding down and my mental health is kind of on the rocks so I’ll be taking a small break from tumblr.
I’ll be back soonish though.

My parents tell me I’ll never get married and that it will be impossible for me to transition. I tell them that I can have kids and they’re being ridiculous but they are insistent on their ‘research’. From being a father yourself, along with having transitioned, how possible is it actually? Thanks for taking the time to read this.

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Well, to be blatant – there are thousands of men in my position who prove unequivocally that is it both possible and easily done. 

A friend of mine saved his eggs pre transition and had them placed into his (now) Wife’s uterus. They have a happy and healthy baby as a result. There are so very many ways to have children; conception just being one of a plethora. 

If I were to have another child, we’d adopt for instance. 

It seems as though your parents are literally ignoring the scores of trans men Fathers. 

im 15 yo trans boy and a few days ago i came out to my psychiatrist. for some reason it was the most terrifying thing i had ever done, despite most people at my school knowing, and after i had the worst anxiety id ever had in my life. i’m having an appointment with him and a brand new psychologist he told me he’d have to tell on dec 15. do you have any tips on how i should deal with the appointment, what i should say? i want to start the process of coming out to everyone, especially my family.

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These people are here to help you. Like, that’s literally their one job – to help you through shitty situations. I know it’s super nerve wracking and anxiety inducing, but is the alternative any more appealing? I hope you’ll be plesantly surprised. 

The good thing is that your new psychologist is the perfect person to chat to about your feelings with regard to the impending coming out process you spoke about. In fact, I used my own psychiatrist when I was first transitioning to actually out myself to my parents; I felt being in a therapists office with her present would negate many of my fears re: abandonment. 

Unless these mental health professionals have given you reason otherwise, let them help you. 

I’m 17, almost 3 months on t, and my parents have just brought up top surgery. Obviously I want it, but it’s too weird and awkward to talk to them about. I’ll be eligible in January… What advice do you have on how to talk to them?

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I know it might feel awkward, but think about it without emotion: your parents (who sound pretty supportive) would love to know more about your future plans and by the sounds of it, if they can help. 

I can guarantee you that being a trans man is not at all comfortable. There are going to be many times in your life that you’ll have to have uncomfortable conversations, or even have to do stuff like pap smears or other awkward as hell shit. It is part of taking care of yourself, despite how it makes us feel emotionally. 

This, right here – sounds like your parents are reaching out. They’re your parents dude, let them in. Unless they hurt you. 

I’m a trans guy and I’m also a dad. I haven’t started T yet but 2017 is going to be the new me. My daughter calls me daddy and all but when she starts getting older and figures things out how should I tell her? Or what should I tell her?

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You’ll find that children are the least of your worries. They are naturally accepting, and you’re her Daddy – she already loves you unconditionally. 

There’s a book floating around my helpful links page called “The Little Boy Book” – it’s a free downloadable .PDF which explains FTM transition in words children can understand.