Early thirties post-transition stealth Father and Husband
http://datingatransman.tumblr.com/
It’s a shame most girlfriend of a trans man blogs I have found are like that.
On the brightside, I found this one yesterday http://marriedtoatransman.tumblr.com/ which is really good. She is married to http://transmandad.tumblr.com/ who is an awesome guy.
You’re pretty rad there yourself, Mister ♥
“52 Tuesdays” is a groundbreaking new film that explores issues affecting the transgender community and the way transitioning intimately affects family dynamics.
Directed by Sophie Hyde, the film follows 16-year-old Billie who is forced to live with her father for a year while her mother transitions from female to male. The pair, who are extremely close, agree to meet every Tuesday during their year apart.”
– I am interested in seeing this film. At first I thought it was a documentary, which had me really excited, but now seeing it is a film….just curious to see how they do this.
Seems interesting.
Hello there!
When your husband feels dysphoria and is down about that do you ever get annoyed?
I sometimes forget that he experiences dysphoria and so it may take me a minute to realise what’s going on but i don’t find it annoying. I find it sad because he can sometimes feel so upset and discouraged with his body whereas it’s my playground, a beautiful body that i adore and the thought that he can be sad about something i find so heavenly is… well… just sad i guess. Maybe i need a thesaurus because the only word i can find to describe how i deal with this is sad.Like if it happens often sometimes or something?
It is hard when this happens often – only because as his partner I’m kinda going through what he’s going through too and when it happens a lot, it can bring both of us down a bit. I am just extra cautious during these times to not do anything that will contribute to his dysphoria.And is it hard to remember that if his dysphoria is really bad that it doesn’t have to do with you or anything you did or whatever?
Yes sometimes it’s hard to put up the barrier between what he’s feeling and what I’m feeling. I have occasionally felt frustrated because I feel he’s so perfect and he doesn’t see that. This is where communication is key. He can tell me that he’s feeling dysphoric and remind me that it’s not my fault and then i remind him that it’s not his fault either 🙂As to your future lady companions, just talk to them. Tell them about dysphoria and just be honest about how it impacts on you and then talk about ways to reduce the impact on your relationship.
Thanks for the questions!
I don’t work for the rest of the week, and my gorgeous Wife is off work soon for the rest of the week.
It’s 45°C (~113°F) here today, and has been for the past few days. It’s hell, and our air con (despite leaving it on 24/7) isn’t coping well.
When my Wife gets home from work, I think it will be a few cold alcoholic beverages on the lounge kind of night.
I have faint scars on my chest which you can sort of see in my Avatar and this picture here (taken years ago).
I had double incision, with NO nipple grafts; that is the surgeon completely removed my natal nipples and areola, and once my chest itself had healed, surgically reconstructed them. The areola coloration was cosmetically tattooed on once nipples had healed.
I chose this type of procedure as I had no care for nipple sensation at all, wanted to be able to choose exactly what size my nipples were and where they were located.
All in all, I am exceptionally happy with the results. Perhaps I’ll get my areola pigmentation touched up, but that’s a perhaps.
As far as scars are concerned, I used nothing at all except Bio-Oil, which I’ve written about here.
I do think this was something that aided in the begginig of my transition, yes. Before T really took hold and gave me secondary sex characteristics such as facial hair, deep voice and body hair etc – oftentimes having K and my Wife around most likely did help with “passing” occasionally.
Now, though, it certainly doesn’t do anything of the sort. Regardless of my marital status or if I had children, I doubt there would be any kind of – well, anything that would “give me away” so to speak.
People here probably don’t even know what being trans means.
FIrstly, Happy New Year to every single one of you. May 2014 be a joyous and peaceful year for you all.
Last week, I quit my job that I had gotten shortly after arriving in the rural town we now reside. A member of my extended family runs a buisness here in town, and she was unable to keep up with the bookwork and wages due to having another job and four children. So she offered the job to me, which I graciously accepted. Same rate of pay as my previous job, less hours however in an air conditioned office and I don’t have to literally run to keep up with customer demand. Lovely.
I do however feel a little bit shit for quitting the other job due to the amount of money it was bringing our family. Realistically it was the most money we have made as a family to date. When paying bills we didn’t usually have to take money off one bill to put on another, which was relieving.
I was however out of the house before sunrise most mornings, and was tired and grumpy upon my return home. K was making it known he did not like me working such hours, and my poor Wife was struggling with working and tending to the house on her own.
We have always lived by the motto of “Work to live, don’t live to work” and I was going back on that. It felt as though I wasn’t being a good Husband or Father, only a good employee.
So, new job abounds and a bit more time to do things for my family now, which is great.
I’m a 30 something year old woman who is married to the man of my dreams. Together we have a 9 year…
This is my Wife’s blog – it’s a work in progress so please bear with her. We all don’t have much time.
I surely will. Thanks for the heads up.
Edit:
I attempted to find her to no avail; is the username correct?
Many thanks! 🙂
transmandad 