I have just completed gender therapy and am about to begin my testosterone treatments. Can you share your experiences with just starting hormone therapy? What can I expect in the near future?

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To be brutally honest I don’t remember all the nuances and important details of starting HRT, but I’d hope very much that if you’re undergoing that process your treating Doctor would have informed you exactly of what to expect, and a brief timeline of such events.

Basically: dick growth, sensitivity, hair growth, voice breaking, pimples, sweat, hungry, horny. You’re going to go through puberty, man. And all that comes along with it.

Happens at different stages for different folks, as hormones react individually with your body as opposed to someone else’s.

how brutal did the summer get where you are? are you looking forward to winter?

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Summer was pretty damn brutal.

Temperatures ranging from around 115°F to 121°F.

Where I currently reside is also a very dry climate, so the heat is different to what I was used to which was a more humid and wet kind of heat. Here it is dry and insufferable.

Right now, it’s not even Winter yet and temps are around 50-60°F already during the height of the day, so it will get pretty damn cold here too.

It doesn’t get quite cold enough to snow though.

I love winter – I find it much easier to get warm when it is cold than stay cool when it is hot.

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I’m doing some work on the computer this morning for a few hours, and I’ll leave my ask box open in a tab if anyone wants to ask stuff.

(also known as a plea to aid in procrastination).

There is life after transition.

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I wanted to post about something, to make something abundantly clear:

I don’t even remember I am trans/think about it in daily life.

There are some exceptions to that rule; dysphoric bouts, family bringing it up, self doubt, anxiety and depression. But for the most part – I live carefree, knowing I am 100% male in everything I do.

I don’t think about my past. It’s just that – the past. Sometimes people have history they’d rather not remember or speak about. And that’s how I view mine.

Have hope, there is life after transition. And it’s beautiful.

My wife and I are currently ttc and non disclosure was an easy decision for us. To you and other parents: If you were able to decide on disclosing or not, would you have? If you chose to do so, what would be your reasoning for it? Going to the Dr regularly or seeing a plastic surgeon is not uncommon today. Do you feel like it has some special relevance to being a parent or a person in general? I fail to see how feeling like a man and living as one means you have a secret that needs to be told.

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I agree wholeheartedly;

there is no “secret” to be told. At all. Disclosure – especially to your children – is a very personal thing. If I had the choice over; I probably would still choose to disclose. My own Son was very, very confused about his own body in relation to my own – among many other reasons.

I feel as though me being trans has absolutely nothing to do with how I raise (or would raise) children, nor does it hold any baring on how I am as a human being in general.

I apologize if I didn’t answer your question properly.

Yes, I would choose to disclose if I had the option. I can’t quite articulate why I feel that way, though, and I know before my status was disclosed to him I was adamant he’d never know until he was older, if at any time.

It’s had no reflection on how he treats me. He still refers to his conception as though I was involved – “When your sperm met Mum’s egg and I was created….” and we don’t correct him. He knows what’s up.

Any other parents want to weigh in?

Part Two- After eight more years not living with her, she is out and currently nearly fully transitioned. It hurt me to know that she could not speak her deepest humiliation to me or my siblings, it hurt that she kept it from me for so long. I don’t know why I decided to tell you this, I just want you to know that I’m proud of you for even considering outting yourself to someone. I want you to know that you need to keep going, because it is possible and you can do this. Keep going darling.

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Part 2

Okay, this annoyed me for a number of reasons least of which was you referring to your parent as a “trans man” when they obviously identify as a Woman.

Secondly, this almost seems accusatory – as though I will hurt my Son by him accidentally finding out I am trans.
This is not possible due to the fact that HE ALREADY KNOWS – my Wife and I have discussed this with him.

Apologies if I read this wrong.

Part 1. My father was a in the closet transgendered man, I lived with him for ten years and I only knew of his transsexualism for one of those years. My parents slept in separate rooms, he used pink razors to shave his legs, fake breasts, stole my mothers clothes, wigs, makeup. I can not fathom how hard it was for him, even though he abused me, I forgive him. I know that he was hurt and so he hurt me. But I want you to know that finding out on accident was the thing that hurt the most.

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Pary 1 of ask/submission.