I don’t think any amount of research could ever prepare me for how excruciatingly painful post hysto gas pain can be. Bad enough I called my surgeon on his direct cell after hours. Bad enough I called my mom. Bad enough I’ve been sitting in the bathroom naked and smoking and demanding my brother bring me things without any fucks given.
I was so paralyzed with pain I was fully prepared to die. I’m praying the worst is over.
The gas was the worst part for me too … I hope it goes away soon.
Oh god I completely forgot about this part. Ugh. That, combined with the “empty” feeling in your stomach is not plesant.
The car was alright, except it either had a coolant sensor issue as the light qas on with full coolant, or something much more serious.
He also wasn’t willing to come down anywhere near what we were prepared to offer, so we left it.
Back on the hunt. It’s pretty fucking crushing to think that if our car was still functional, we would have ½ of a house deposit for a fixer-upper, and ¼ of we bought a good to go house and land.
Looking at a car tomorrow. Not getting my hopes up at all, especially as my very knowledgeable Brother-in-law most likely can’t come check it out with us.
But send positive vibes if you can.
This is really helpful, thank you for your input.
It seems my quest for the perfect stp continues. I’m sorted for the bedroom department, it’s a realistic, easy to pack with stp I’m after.
1) Most of the time it comes from out and loud (opposed to just out) trans guys who have the privilege of being able to safely be out. They lack empathy, so they are unable to fathom why there are other trans guys who can’t be out, and their choice to be stealth usually comes down to them protecting their privacy and safety.
2) It implies that stealth trans guys do nothing to help other trans guys with their transition, or help with educating cis people. There are stealth trans guys who educated openly before going stealth, or who currently do behind the scenes work without disclosing that they are trans. It’s possible. To assume that stealth = not helping anyone else, is ignorant.
3) It implies that stealth trans men have an obligation to come out and tell everyone around that them they were born the opposite sex. This could put some people in danger, while other trans guys would rather just exist as a male without the “trans” lumped in front of it. That’s alright, please be decent and respect that, and never out these people without their permission. There’s always going to be trans people who are out, so don’t worry about the trans community not progressing. A few stealth trans guys who exist just like a cis male aren’t going to halt progress.
4) It implies you have two options – stealth, or out. In reality you can be somewhere in between, and that is alright too. Many trans people are somewhere in between because it’s not always possible to be 100% stealth or out.
5) It’s used to guilt stealth trans men into outing themselves, if that has not already been made obvious. What if that stealth trans man lived in a place where he would be beaten up if people he knew found out? Don’t be that person and make a trans person in an already uncomfortable position feel worse.
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