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I’ll answer any further questions tomorrow, right now I’m gonna just browse and chill probably change my layout for the thousandth time.
Thanks so much for all the awesome topic ideas/suggestions.
Pretty sure I got to them all.

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greenbaconsmoothie – this is a really good question that I might have to turn over to my lovely followers for some help on.
My suggestions are: Facebook groups, Yahoo groups, Local trans centres might have support groups (this is actually you’re best bet most likely).

Followes – any ideas?

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I always want to talk about how great you are, dont-ever-show-weakness. You’re my not-so-secret man crush. ❤

Good topic, though.

While for me, being stealth feels both logical and natural – it’s certainly far from easy. I have difficulty articulating exactly why this is, but I kind of feel as though it’s far easier in the first stages of transition than it is later on in the game.

When you’re completely stealth, there’s a constant fear (for me, anyway) of having your stealthness compromised. That gut feeling you have that while you have friends and co-workers who know and love you, they don’t *know*.
Yeah, this is actually ridiculously difficult to articulate.

When you’re out as trans, people can categorize you. It makes it almost easier on those around you as you’re willing to share this confronting part of yourself simply by being out. You’re allowing others to express a form of curiosity at any percieved inconsistencies; be they related to gender or not.

You give people that space for questions, and allowances. I’m not saying it’s easy, at all – but it does allow a dialouge instead of none at all.

I fear not only for my own saftey if someone found out accidentally, but my family’s. My Son’s.
Now, when I injure myself I am more acutely aware of the need to remain stealth at all costs, even in the ER. This town is tiny. All appointments related to anything remotely needing me to out myself are deliberately scheduled out of town, to remove that “small town” layer. Doctor’s are bound by confidentiality, but in small towns, gossip reigns.

And I guess for me one of the things that makes me acutely aware of my history is my lack of early male socialisation. For all general purposes, I was socialised as female. Here in the sticks, where men are men and sheep are afraid – it becomes an even greater divide. Perhaps that is exaggerated in my head, but it sure feels real.

None of this is even making sense, but I gave it a go regardless.

Personal question. For the bed what equipment do you use? I heard that the peecock can work with play but some say it’s not good. I’m just trying to figure out what’s worth the money for play. Also have you used any pack and plays?

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In the bedroom I currently use the Freetom 4-in-1 or whatever it is.
I find it particularly large to pack with, but for the bedroom it suits my needs and my Wife’s needs very well.

I used to use the peecock in the bedroom, but the shaft is kind of skinny and short to be able to be completely “perfect” for the bedroom. That could probably be remedied by getting a larger model, however then packing would be a possible problem.

Other than that, most bedroom prosthetics that I have prefered don’t have any other features than being just a hard packer.

Do you always use your stp or is there time when you don’t? Like do you sleep with it?

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If I am awake and have showered, my STP is in my jocks. Always.

As for pissing, sometimes in the comfort of my own home I’ll sit to pee – especially if the trip to the toilet is for erm, multi tasking? ha.

But as for when I’m out and about, at work etc – I will always stand to pee. The exception to this is occasionally when I am absolutely blind drunk and know there’s significant chance I will piss all over myself if I stand. That would likely happen if I were natal male, anyway. Sometimes the floor moves when you’re drunk.

As for sleeping with it, I generally prefer to sleep with a Mr Limpy or some other smaller kind of packer. I don’t usually have to pee during the night, and having a peecock floating about in your boxer shorts is not as comfortable as a Mr Limpy, which is significantly smaller and squishier.

How do you take T and have you tried other ways (eg injection, pellets…)?

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I currently inject 4ml of Reandron 1000 into my butt every 10 weeks. This is a slow release form of Testosterone, meaning that I don’t have to recieve an injection anywhere near as often as I used to while on Sustanon 250 – which was 1ml every 2 weeks.

I have thought about pellets, however right now Reandron is working fairly well for me. It was only the other day I was talking to my Wife about how I might like to see my current GP regarding other routes of administration, more specifically the pellets, because it’s something I do think about occasionally.

I have never used creams or gels, though. They’re not something I was ever really interested in trying.

Can you go into more detail about how you changed your gender legally?

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Sure can.

I waited until I had my hysto before I changed my gender, as I was able to get my hysto covered by the government while I was still legally female.

There were mere months before I “had” to get my gender changed, in order to be able to legally marry my Wife. We’d booked out wedding, sent out invitations etc.

Right after my Hysto I began the process of getting my marker changed on my birth certificate. There were forms I could download from the Births, Deaths and Marriages website, which included explicit instructions detailing what evidence I must provide etc.
The “main” thing was the form requiring two independant statutory declerations (legally binding) from two different Medical Doctors which had either administered Hormone Treatment or Surgery pertaining to my gender reassignment.

My chest surgeon was a few hours drive away, and ridiculously expensive for even a consult requiring just a signature. I decided to get my treating GP (of almost 8 years at that stage) to sign one of the stat. dec’s, and my Hysto surgeon the other. It was pretty specific in the fact that they both had to be present and witness each other’s signings, but luckily my GP was super accomodating and met me at the Hysto surgeon’s consult rooms one day after they’d both finished work.

I was super paranoid that B, D & M’s wouldn’t, for whatever reason, accept my paperwork – so I overcompensated by providing official copies (signed by a Justice of the Peace) of every single piece of medical paperwork, psychological reports etc pertaining to my transition to date. I also had to pay a fee somewhere in the vicinity of $60-$100. I can’t remember exactly.

All in all, I certainly went overboard but the turn around time was fairly rapid for a Government organisation, and I had my ammended Birth Certificate in the mail. Previously my old Birth Cert had, on the reverse, a “change of name” declaration, indicating my name had been changed from BIRTH NAME to CURRENT NAME in giant, bold letters. Now, there is no such thing on my Birth Certificate – it says “Male” next to my Sex, and has my current name without mention of previous – which was a welcome relief.