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coffee-cigarettes-and-no-sleep:

transmandad:

toughasbro:

Is it normal to feel like you’ve had 15 cups of coffee after your first shot, or is that just adrenaline?

I remember feeling like this, too. It’s adrenaline – and it feels like you’re on top of the world.
Congratulations!

See…

I see things like this all the time. 
And then I feel broken ‘cause it’s “Holy shit that hurts. Alright…” and nothin’. No rush. No sudden bursts of energy. I mean, yeah there’s obvious physical changes going on so I’m doing something right, but mental state is ever the same.

For what it’s worth, I only ever felt that way after my very first shot – never since.

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toughasbro:

Is it normal to feel like you’ve had 15 cups of coffee after your first shot, or is that just adrenaline?

I remember feeling like this, too. It’s adrenaline – and it feels like you’re on top of the world.
Congratulations!

Dysphoria.

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dont-ever-show-weakness:

Being outdoors and doing something physically exhausting has been the best therapy I’ve ever had.

Hands down this is what works for me. I’m blessed to be able to escape to nature right out my back door, or if I’d rather be more secluded a couple hundred metres down the dirt track.

Yard work is especially good, nothing feels like you’ve earnt a beer more to me than slogging away from sun up until sun down on the land.

Camping, fishing, being near water, cycling, hiking, star gazing, building a fire, whittling, sharpening knives, walking your dog/pet, doing something with a young person/your child.

These are things that in the last 12 months have become literal life savers.

Dysphoria.

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transmandad:

What do you do when your dysphoria becomes unbearable?

I thought I might attempt to create some dialouge regarding this because, well, I’m in need of some other ways to mitigate the negativity of this fucking condition.

Some things I do that usually quell the urge to top myself when dysphoria becomes unbearable are:

  • Distract myself. Often this includes doing completely pointless things such as watching videos of kittens and puppies on youtube, watching some comedy or a good film.
  • Play music. The concentration it takes to learn a new piece on an instrument is often enough to detract from other intense feelings, if only for a slight while.
  • Attempt to focus on the positive changes that testosterone has brought about (obviously many) instead of the things I’m feeling dysphoric about.
  • Help someone else do something; I love the feeling helping others gives me. Not only is this productive but it also gives you a good feeling that can sometimes be strong enough to mask any negativity.
  • Kill things on Halo/ other FPS type video game(s).

This is only a very limited personal list of things that have helped me in the past. Unfortunately I feel as though none of these are working well as of late, but they’ve held me for eight or so years already so they certainly have thier merrits.

It would be interesting and possibly helpful if anyone felt like they had anything to contribute.

Hey man, what are your tips with dealing with dysphoria when you’re 16, your out to only 2 friends who you don’t see too often, and your parents are very transphobic? I plan to start my transition a few months before I turn 18, with my goal of being on t with my name changed by the time I start college. Luckily for me, I have my entire senior year to work towards that..

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Hey there.

I went and found the posts tagged dysphoria in hopes they might have some helpful information for you, so feel free to browse through that if you’ve got a minute.
It’s pretty tough when you’re first coming out – there’s much less physical and emotional supports for you. Firstly, I’d like to extend the invitation to you or anyone else who feels they might need it to contact me directly and have a chat – just specify that you’d rather keep the conversation private and I will certainly honour that.

Secondly, there’s a wide variety of IRL and online support groups, especially youth related, that I feel might be beneficial to you. They’re generally categorized by general geographic location, so perhaps try some google-fu akin to “online trans support groups ### area” or something. 

Finally, know you’re not alone. There are a lot of other men going through similar experiences, in similar situations. We may not all be the same, but we can all support one another. This shit isn’t easy, and you never have to go through it alone.

Any tips on being stealth and looking for love? I find that being trans and looking for someone who I could spend the rest of my life hard. I am afraid that I’ll find someone and when I tell them that I haven’t always identified as a male they will ether hate me or see me as a female or worse out me.

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My Wife and I have been speaking about this a lot recently, probably due to the fact that whenever we have difficult periods in our life we turn inward to each other and our little family and focus on the good we have around us.

I met my Wife during a time I deliberately was “not looking” for a partner. I’d had a series of adolescent relationships that lasted for several years each, and I was finally in a place where I felt I could simply be with myself. I think that had a lot to do with why my Wife and I met; neither of us were looking. How we met was literally serendipity, but I’m not going into that.

I feel like being stealth is kind of the same as though you’ve got any other medical condition; not particularly first date type material but if you have an inkling that things may take a long-term type run, better to be up front about anything right off the bat rather than wait.

The number one ultimate piece of advice I can give you regarding relationships is this: communication and honesty. They’re of the most importance – and don’t come easy, especially with a budding relationship. But I can’t stress how important communication and honesty are.

Stop, breathe, and know that there is someone out there for every one.

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Wife marriedtoatransman will be away the entire weekend for work. It’s a selfless act, and she’s going to do so very well but K and I already miss her.

I just dropped K off at school, her off at work and have come back to a very messy and lonely house.

Time to get my clean on and distract myself.

Hey. I’m about to start the application process to have my sex on my birth certificate changed. With the statutory declaration is there a specific way its meant to be set out? I’m not sure if there’s a template that the BDM has or its just a statement signed stating that you have had the necessary surgery to live as your true gender? Any help would be greatly appreciated. Cheers

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Hey bear-b-bear, there’s a template on the BDM form if I recall correctly? It’s just a part of the form they have to fill out. It’s all available online, but keep in mind this information is all Australia specific. And I’m not sure if processes are different depending on the state in which you were issued you’re Birth Certificate.

as a trans guy I never thought I’d be able to have a normal life, this gives me hope

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marriedtoatransman:

You can live the life you want and I guarantee you that there is at least one other person out there who wants to live it with you, you just have to find them. 

More and more we live a “normal” lifestyle. We go to work, pay our taxes, take little K to swimming lessons, attend parent teacher interviews and go camping on holidays.

Occasionally we throw caution to the wind and wave our rainbow flag but other than that, the only different thing about our family is that I give TMD injections every few weeks and our sex life is a little different.