Dysphoria

transitarian:

Gender Dysphoria isn’t something you can just turn off and on, it’s a feeling that happens naturally and rarely within our control.

It isn’t an automatic and excessive self-loathing, but it causes it.

Imagine you getting dressed for a formal event, and you’re unable to find something you’re comfortable wearing.  Imagine that feeling again, but this time it being your body.  This discomfort can cause feelings of distaste and dislike with one’s own skin, but it isn’t self hatred.

Please stop telling trans people they ‘just hate their body’.  It’s so much more complicated than that.

I came across your post about whether or not you use a condom during sex with your FreeTom. Do you use latex condoms? Condoms that are pre-lubricated with silicone-based lubricants? On FreeTom’s site, it says that one should steer clear of latex condoms and those with silicone-based lubricants because it will “ruin the prosthetic.” Have you found this to be true? It is very hard to find non-latex, non-lubricated condoms haha.

Hi there.

I use latex based condoms that have water-based lubricant. That is completely safe for silicone toys – you want water based lube, not silicone – that will melt your shit really fast.

I have never heard of latex condoms with silicone lube, but if you can find condoms without lube just buy a small bottle of water based lubricant to go along with it.

So, all in all: latex condoms have been fine for me, just make sure they have WATER based lubricant, NOT silicone.

transmansable:

Please read this first:

To view it in the right order, click on the red slide titled “SLIDEONE” and then scroll right to continue.

None of this information came from anyone who was particularly close to John. This came from an unlikely person who happens to have ridiculously good searching skills, and in the end, I was able to successfully tie john to her but I can’t give out that info, so this should be enough. But I assure you, this is the person. It’s not a lot but it’s enough.

No one should contact this person or harass them. That’s not why I am doing this. I blocked the name for a reason, and left the Twitter and Instagram for another reason. If this person hasn’t changed they Twitter, DO NOT CONTACT THEM. It’s not like I can punish you but you won’t be doing the situation any good. This is to help others move on, not to hurt someone else. This is not meant to be malicious, but I have become the only person who people are coming to for answers and I am obligated to give them since I’m the one who called the suicide a bluff. This person has posted since the “suicide” and continues to live. The suicide never happened and John was never John. Don’t let that rage you, let this educate you.

We already proved the audio tapes were fake along with the pictures. This is just the final conclusion to all of it. I’m sorry to those who were deceived, and I understood when people hated me for saying anything. But the truth had to come out, no one deserves to cry over someone’s else’s selfish voids.

Whoever defended john, claiming to know him personally and knew for a fact he was real, is probably the same person on a different profile. Someone with similar interests and behaviors. Be aware that this person is more than likely still online and on tumblr scamming you.

Another thing: THEOTHEROPINION IS NOT A CATFISH. I know who he is, I’ve talked with him and have seen videos of him, personally, I know for a fact he is not fake. John was definitely fake and there is someone else right now who may be scamming you. So take your attention off of Nick. Look for Someone with similar goals: obsessed with proving masculinity and class, sharing old music tastes to seem different, acting as if they are formal and distant, etc…. But recently, they might have become a bit vulnerable and soft, victimizing themselves to seem less likely and throw people off. That’s more than likely your person. Someone who will deny even this evidence or call me mean for releasing it. Be aware and be careful, they haven’t let go.

One again, please do not contact this person or cause them harm. That’s not why I did this. I did this to help others let go, not give you all something else to hold onto, like a grudge.

Let this be the end. Go back and go through it again. Over and over until you see that it is definitely this person behind the profile. It would be nice if this person could come forward and answer some questions but I wouldn’t count on it. It’s over.

Impending Weekend.

Work has been so full on and stressful lately, I’m loving every second I am away from the office.
The weekend is creeping up, and we’re all going on a road trip to visit my parents, in particular my Mother – for Mother’s Day.
Mum’s really excited because both of my Sisters and thier kids and spouses will be there too – we’ll all be in the same state at the same time.

This post has been tricky to write, because I’m trying to leave out most details and make this a little less personal.

I’m excited to see K and his cousins play and interact – they’re all fairly similar in age, and K is super excited to see them.
I’m a little apprehensive with regards to my Sisters and I being in the same space for so long together. They’re good people, and we certainly get along but I do have quite a bit of old anxieties when I’m around my whole family at once.
It’s like, old memories of pre transition and they get stuck in my mind. I can’t really articulate it properly. 

And for some reason they feel ownership over my history – they’ve outed me to random fucking people here and there, and when I pull them up on it and get angry they say stupid shit like “You can’t deny your past, you shouldn’t hide who you are!” and it makes me want to smash things. So I tend to avoid them a fair bit as a result.

Regardless, it will be a welcome distraction from thinking about work.

What’s your opinion on Stem Cell Research?

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This is an interesting question, and one I find difficult to answer.
I come from a science background originally; and I have a passion for biology
especially. I see many merits in Stem Cell Research, particularly in the way of
identifying how undifferentiated cells become differentiated cells that form
our tissues and organs – because things like cancer are due to abnormal cell
division and differentiation, so I feel this research is really important.

I have reservations about the validity of using human embryonic cells in
this way, however I try and justify it to myself by reasoning: more than a
third of zygotes do not implant after conception. So, far more embryos are lost
due to chance than are supposedly used for embryonic stem cell research or
treatments.

What an interesting question to receive on this blog, haha.

Growing Up.

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I feel as though K has crossed some kind of threshold into pre-pubescence in
the last couple of months. It’s natural for my Wife and I to occasionally
remark about him looking “grow up” in certain attire, or when he’s just had a
fresh haircut, or when he uses a particularly complex word in the correct
context.

But this time it’s actually different. He actually is growing up – I
can without effort envisage him as a teenager. He’s always been taken with
music, but now he puts his iPod on his speaker, closes the door and sings at
the top of his lungs. The way he interacts with the world around him has
changed, not necessarily in any negative capacity but more so with a general
feeling of growth. It’s difficult to articulate.

Last weekend, my Wife and I took K on a roadtrip to a small quiet rural town
that had a “great” skate park, according to friends. K is super into riding his
scooter, and it’s kind of hysterical because I grew up obsessed with
skateboarding – scooter riders being an active enemy in my youth.
I digress – he and I had such a good time together, me skating and him on his
scooter. We had the park to ourselves for hours, my Wife and our family dog
were going on short walks, playing fetch and watching alternately. K and I were
cheering each other on, doing lines around the skate park following one
another. Afterwards we walked to the nearby café and bought some lunch to eat
in the park, and then K and I played on the play equipment.
Our car was parked back over near the skate park – our gear already in the boot
but when K lamented at the fact we were going home, and asked for another 15
minutes at the skate park – it didn’t take long for either of us to oblige.
I think we’re going again this Saturday.

Lately, as in the last 24 hours, I’ve read a couple of accounts of people coming out in support of the trans child in their life. I think it’s great that the issue is getting publicity. However, as someone that chooses to live as stealth as possible I feel like it’s not necessarily fair for their families to out them when they are 5 or 6 years old. This is not something that I would want to show up should somebody choose to Google my name. What are your thoughts?

I agree.

I often see these stories/television programs and forget that these kids will eventually grow up and most likely want to be stealth, or at the very least just live thier lives.
While I would love to have been able to access hormone replacement therapy, puberty blockers and therapy as early as some of these children have, I think that comes with a certain degree of publicity and a lot of “supporters” forget that media nowdays is permanent. Archives are so readily available online that years after a story is published, a simply keyword search will yeild many results.

Hi, I need a little bit of help and I thought that you would be the most knowledgeable. My mom and uncle are saying that my personality has changed since being on t, that I’ve become more agressive. How do I combat this?

Do you feel you have become more agressive on T?

I guess this is a difficult question to answer; personally I can attest to the change in senation of anger itself. It is far more easy to access nowdays comparatively speaking, but that’s not to say I can’t control it because I most certainly can.

I think how we experience emotions changes when starting HRT, but how you respond to your emotions doesn’t have to.