I’m a 22 yr old trans guy and I’m not “out” and loud about it like the rest of the community where I live. I have a girlfriend and we’ve been together for 8 years. its been getting serious& she’s been talking about wanting to have kids with the person she loves and we’re both bummed that I can’t giver her that. I don’t know if i should wait around for her to change her mind. Secondly, I haven’t met her family& her brother is a typical douche, she says he won’t support it. I don’t know whatiCANdo

What you can do is not tell her family about you history, that’s your right and if you feel unsafe in any way – they don’t need to know.
I can relate to a lot of your feelings.

There are so many alternatives for those who can’t conceive naturally; IVF, donors, friends, adoption. Treat this as though you were any other male with fertility issues.

Hey all,

Apologies (again) for the absence. Work is seriously kicking my ass, and I’ve also acquired a motorcycle so all my free time is split between riding and being with family.

Little K is not so little anymore – we moved closer to his school and he now rides his bike to and from off his own accord. His friend lives about a block away, so he’s been having a lot of fun and gaining independence. I try not to be a helicopter parent, but coming from a city it’s difficult to let go of preconceived notions of “danger”.

So, life is mainly work, chores, errands and family time with a little riding thrown in for headspace.

If you’re curious about something, send a message and I’ll answer as soon as possible.

Thanks for hanging in there everyone. Hopefully I’ll have a colleague soon enough so I won’t have to bust ass at work so much.