I can’t believe I’ve been searching for the ‘right’ prosthetic for 10 years to no avail.
I often wonder if I should look into making myself what I desire. But I’m far too lazy for that, ha.
I’m a trans dad as well, I was wondering if your son has any contact with his biological father. My wife & I are currently going through a custody battle, my son’s biological father has never been in the picture & now he suddenly wants to be apart of my son’s life.. He is now 5 years old. It’s really taking a toll on me. Do you have any advice?
I am so very sorry to hear this is happening for you and your Wife. I sincerely do not know what I would do in your situation.
We are ‘lucky’ in the fact that K’s biological Father has, despite us giving him every invitation, never expressed any desire to visit K let alone have custody of him. He left the scene when K was 2 weeks old, and has been given ample opportunity every year to have visitation, or simply hang out with us present. He has only ever contacted us to find out how he could stop paying child support for a “child I never see anyway”.
It also is aided by the fact that even with two amicable parties, it costs a significant amount to go through the court system and arrange these things here – and K’s biological Father has been unemployed for the duration of K’s life thus far so he could not afford to go down this route.
My advice to you is although this is painful, do not negate the importance of you in your Son’s life. Despite the reality of you not being his “biological” Father, it seems as though you have been present for a good portion of his life, if not moreso than his bio Father. This should all be taken into consideration by the courts during the process.
Good luck, and my heart goes out to you.
University of Western Sydney – Experiences of Transgender Parents Survey
This is super important research, and if you’re a trans parent in Australia I urge you to consider filling this out.
University of Western Sydney – Experiences of Transgender Parents Survey
K comes home tomorrow and I literally cannot wait. Come home nooowww!
Do you have any advice on shopping for packers/STPs? I’m thinking about investing in a 3-in-1 type at some point, but I’m not sure where to look or what to consider investing in since many are expensive.
When it comes to packers and STP’s my recommendations for people would depend on a few factors. The questions that come to mind are usually: how realistic do you want it to be, how realistic do you want it to feel, what is your price range, what kind of bulge are you looking for, what sort of harness would you want, do you even want to have a harness, what kind of firmness are you looking for, does the STP need to be inside of a packer, and so on so forth. If a person needs help finding a specific product then I’d be glad to assist them, I’d just need those kinds of questions answered. For the most part I’ve read enough reviews on almost all of the products to see what issues people have with them as well and can take that into account when recommending products.
For general advice I can copy/paste some products from a list I made for ftmsextalk and you can browse through those to see if there’s anything you like in terms of the aesthetic and price of it. Establish a budget for yourself, make a list of desirable qualities (based on the questions above), make a list of things you’re willing to compromise on, and then explore these options:
Packers:
$12 – Mr. Limpy
$20 – Pack-it Packers
$20 – Masho
$24-28 – Sailor Soft Pack
$40 – Private Silicone Packer
$52 – Packman
$55 – Archer
$55 – Pierre
$60 – Mr. Right
$80 – ReelMagik Basic Packer
$100-400 – Like Real Prosthetics
$250-275 – Lola.Jake Products
$297-350 – Emisil Products
$500 – ReelMagik ProstheticsSTP Devices:
$10 – Go Girl STP
$12 – pStyle
$16 – Classic Fenis
$25 – Mr. Fenis
$50 – Fitz STP
$55 – Number One STP
$75 – Model D STP
$80 – Model A STP
$195-295 – Transthetics3-in-1 Devices:
$159-179 – FreeToM Prosthetics
$179 – PeecockEach device comes with it’s own unique set of advantages and disadvantages, therefore no product is inherently greater than another. They each have their place in this world and they are suited for different people. After you review these products to decide what you like based on appearance and price, I’d recommend looking up several (10+) reviews to see what others have to say. See what issues they have with it and if that’s something you would feel comfortable with. An important question to consider when looking at a product is how it looks when packing, as one could seem fine in a picture and end up very difficult to pack with (such as the FreeToM), so look for pictures of people packing with it as well. This could take a few hours, but you’re putting in a lot of work to find a product that will hopefully be perfect and make your life so much better. It’s really worth the work.
And a word of warning – “The Ultimate Prosthetic” is a site you might come across when looking for packers. This is a well known scam and many people have put hundreds of dollars into it and have never received their products. Steer clear of this and stay safe. This is why looking for multiple product reviews is so important.
This is a super thorough packing post.
I’ve been trying to work out how to post an updated photo of myself without actually identifying myself.
Don’t think it’s possible.
Life.
Ask me stuff if you feel so inclined.
On Kik today too.
The “don’t talk at a urinal” rule is not relevant in small Australian country towns, apparently.
For the first time in years my Wife and I have a day off work together and K is still with his grandmother.
We’re going out to a bar with a friend for drinks and then all coming back to our house for further shenanigans.
One problem? I’ve woken up vomiting and rushing to the bathroom.
Oh universe, you so cruel.
transmandad 