There are tons of cis men who will never able to be biological Father’s either. It’s something a lot of men deal with, regardless of if they are trans or not.
Back to your not-so-regular check in from me.
Damn it’s been a while, hey? Not much has changed except I keep adding more workplaces to my already hectic schedule. Need that money, you know?
K is ridiculous now. Sporting a proper moustache, strutting around the house, officially taller than me at 13. Fuck. He loves it. It’s incredible.
I have so many messages to get to in my inbox, please bare with me! I’m going to attempt to answer them all to the best of my ability in due time.
Hey, I had a surgeon fuck up the way my nipples look and I am SO glad I came across your post about the nipple construction. I’ve been so depressed over the past few years thinking I could never go to the beach with my friends from school (I’m stealth). This gives me hope they could remove them and do this for me. Thank you thank you. I didn’t know there was any fixing it.
Hey man, no worries.
I had my nipples completely removed, and they look fine now.
So. I might have to go to an obgyn soon. And. Fuck my life. The thought of having to go to this place and having all the attention put on these parts?! Parts I don’t even want?! Fuck. This is not gonna be good for my mental health….but I don’t know of any places where the head bitch in charge is a transman, do you? In a perfect world, there’d be a place ran and operated by trans people, at least they’d understand, you know?
Hey, I can sympathise with you. I hated going to the obgyn, too. I think if you give them a call and explain your trepidation prior to attending, it will quell your anxieties somewhat and allow the staff to prepare adequately.
I just got back from a meeting with a 15 year old trans guy in my town. It was something I was asked to do by a good friend, and it was a good experience. The kid has just come out to his parents and is a little freaked out by thier response. It went well.
There’s another young bloke in town who is completely out socially spealing – same high school as the initial kid.
He got the hell beaten out of him last week, broken ribs and hospitalised because the local boys wanted to “show him how to fight like a man”.
It has been weighing heavily on my mind since – so when this opportunity presented I decided to take it.
I don’t know how I’m feeling about all this shit lately, but I’m sure feeling something alright.
Hi, I’m almost eighteen and I’ve been saving for top surgery. I’ll probably get it sometime in the next two or three years, and I kinda don’t want nipple grafts. I’m asexual so I don’t need them for erotic sensation and I don’t need them for looks either. I just don’t want to get overly noticed when outside at the beach and stuff. I’m kinda worried about it tbh. Any tips on deciding?
I didn’t have nipple grafts – my surgeon didn’t do them at the time. I too wasn’t worried about retaining any sensation in my nipples (erotic or otherwise), and she surgically constructed a “nipple” for me as is her general technique.
Once healed, I got my areola pigmentation tattooed on. No one would notice if I took my shirt off at the beach.
Hi, I’m a 17 year old transman, raised by a single mother. I don’t really have a father figure, but I was wondering if you could give me some life advice? What key points would you want your son to know if you weren’t around? And looking back, what would you tell the younger version of yourself? Thanks
This is a gorgeous message to recieve. Firstly I will say that you most certainly do not need a Father figure to become a wholly successful adult.
If I wasn’t around I’d hope K would remember to be polite; much else follows naturally when you use manners. I’d hope he’d know that there are many different ways to be masculine.
Looking back, I’d tell myself to hold on. Hold tight, because sunshine is coming.
I gotta say, it’s really funny to read your parenting posts from kind of an opposite perspective. I’m 17 and trans…but laughing, knowing that if I was cis my parents would have been pulling their hair out about this stuff-I definitely would have been a sock hoarder, lmao. (Also- get that boy some Kleenex!)
Kleenex is no good – it sticks! He’s sorted now and has no qualms about talking to us which is pretty rad.
So I have a teenager.
In true teenager style I literally had to have a conversation about how it’s totally not okay to stash items of clothing for…use…..in his room.
Ew.
A while ago I asked you about my parents bringing up top surgery… just an update, I did flip out but then brought it up myself a few months later and I’m now 5 months post op! I leave for college soon though- what’s your opinion on telling my roommate? He seems like a nice enough dude but you never know, and I’m not sure how stealth I want to be yet. Thanks and much love to you and your family!
Heck yeah! Thanks for the update.
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