The deal is that my kid is most likely cis because most people are. Being of trans experience doesn’t mean I’m automatically going to uphold any kind of alternative gender views and agendas with my children and Im not obligated to do so. If s/he comes to me one day and says differently then I’ll deal with it then, but it’s highly unlikely.
Shrugs. People are free to do what they want with their infants, scary as that is, but I don’t know what kinda bullshit you gotta tell yourself to pretend that gender assignment isn’t coercive and harmful, even if your kid ends up cis.
More people are cis, seems like. Wonder why that is.
Transgender liberation is not possible without ending gender assignment. We will never be equal when cis is considered the default. If you want a part of that, fine, but I think it’s fucking shitty.
There’s an agenda either way. You’re just going with the popular one.
“Gender reassignment is coercive and harmful” – paraphrased.
I was actively dissuaded by social supports and friends, and had to spend years in therapy in order to transition. It was anything but coercive. The exact opposite.
As for harmful; it was less so than the only other alternative for myself – suicide. I’m not sure how being dead would be more beneficial to me than the unfortunate reality of being trans.
They didn’t say Gender Reassignment, they said Gender Assignment. As in, the assignment of a gender at birth is harmful. If it weren’t for gender assignment at birth, you may not have felt so depressed as to need to kill yourself.
Ah, that makes more sense. It wasn’t my initial gender assignment which was problematic so much as the institutions and structures in place to prevent me from transitioning. I don’t blame Doctors, my parents or anyone for assigning my gender at birth – I don’t think it would have changed my suicidality as it was not entirely related to transness.
The deal is that my kid is most likely cis because most people are. Being of trans experience doesn’t mean I’m automatically going to uphold any kind of alternative gender views and agendas with my children and Im not obligated to do so. If s/he comes to me one day and says differently then I’ll deal with it then, but it’s highly unlikely.
Shrugs. People are free to do what they want with their infants, scary as that is, but I don’t know what kinda bullshit you gotta tell yourself to pretend that gender assignment isn’t coercive and harmful, even if your kid ends up cis.
More people are cis, seems like. Wonder why that is.
Transgender liberation is not possible without ending gender assignment. We will never be equal when cis is considered the default. If you want a part of that, fine, but I think it’s fucking shitty.
There’s an agenda either way. You’re just going with the popular one.
“Gender reassignment is coercive and harmful” – paraphrased.
I was actively dissuaded by social supports and friends, and had to spend years in therapy in order to transition. It was anything but coercive. The exact opposite.
As for harmful; it was less so than the only other alternative for myself – suicide. I’m not sure how being dead would be more beneficial to me than the unfortunate reality of being trans.
I’m glad you find this blog helpful, but I want to stress that I am by no means a beacon of hope.
We all have flaws, and mine are numerous and plentiful.
What I do hope to achieve however is the demonstration of a life “after transition” – whatever that means.
Have you ever worried about the possible long-term effects of being on Testosterone?
Well, you can relax because science has your back.
Italian researchers concluded in 2014 that “Testosterone administration in FtM subjects has a good safety profile” after finding “no significant serious adverse effects and no clinically relevant changes” in 45 FTM patients treated for at least 10 years with T.
Also notable: “Liver and kidney function tests did not show any significant changes.”
The aim of the study was to assess the effects and safety of Testosterone administration on body weight, lipid profile, hematological and bone parameters in trans men.
Source: Safety of More Than Ten Years Testosterone Administration in FTM Subjects. Cristina Meriggiola, MD, PhD, Antonietta Costantino, PhD, Carla Pelusi, MD, Martina Lambertini, MD, Alberto Bazzocchi, MD. Book of Abstracts, WPATH 2014 Biennial International Symposium.
The deal is that my kid is most likely cis because most people are. Being of trans experience doesn’t mean I’m automatically going to uphold any kind of alternative gender views and agendas with my children and Im not obligated to do so. If s/he comes to me one day and says differently then I’ll deal with it then, but it’s highly unlikely.
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