You aren’t hurting the community by wanting to be stealth.
You aren’t hurting the community by being open about your trans status.
You aren’t hurting the community by being a trans activist.
What DOES hurt the community is when you insist that everyone should treat their trans status the same way.
Life is great.
K is 14, much taller than me and killing it at school and life in general.
Wife got a new Government job 8 months ago and she’s loving her new clinical role.
I’ve been working diligently and also been working hard on my mental health. As a result I am happier and more social than I’ve ever been in my life. I have actual friends that I socialise with, am going to the gym 4 days a week minimum and have a clear head.
Life is great.
Hi! Your blog is really amazing, I haven’t seen any other blogs like yours about being a trans Man and a father ! So I have a question, I do see my father sometimes but he never raised me and now that I’m thinking about starting my transition I know that at some point I’ll have to Come Out to him but I have no idea how to even just talk to him, especially about that, do you have any advice ? (Sorry about my english it’s not my first language, and if it was not the right place to ask I’m sorry)
I think coming out is a very individual thing, and it depends on many circumstances. I’d say ensure your relationship is strong in other aspects, especially if you’ve not had much to do with him for a while. Build your relationship up naturally, and you might find you feel more comfortable outing yourself after a while.
hey! im a 17 dude about to start transitioning and tbh this blog is a godsend. i have never wanted bio children but i have wanted to adopt, and i always felt like that was out of the realm of possibility because of the status of my birth. (and i had a similar want but cynical outlook on romantic relationships as well). looking at this blog and reading your stories and the stories of people like you has done a lot for me, emotionally, by showing me that i is an option. thank you for this blog!!!!
You’re welcome. Thanks for taking the time to write in.
Thank you so much for your advice!!! Honestly just hearing from adult trans men that are living their best lives as men gives me so much hope for the future! I hope you’re having a great week and that a crow befriends you, giving you random crow gifts
I fucking love crows, so that would be rad af.
Hi I’m a trans guy in college but still completely dependent on my parents. I came out to the and they didn’t react well and right now they’re just kinda pretending it didn’t happen. If I wanted to bring up the topic so we could have a conversation about it like adults, (that’s important because I don’t want them to talk down to me) how can I do that while still seeming respectful?
Hey!
Firstly congrats on coming out, that’s a huge step. I’m sorry your parents haven’t reacted in the way you might have hoped, and that they’re playing the “ignore-it” game. That’s rough.
Perhaps gently try to bring it up again by saying something like “Remember that conversation we had? It’s still a really big issue in my life and I’d love to have an open and honest discussion with you guys about it, even if it might be uncomfortable”
This way, you’re letting them know that it’s not only important to you, but that you’re also feel uncomfortable about the discussion and want to proceed regardless.
Best of luck man.
Does your son know you’re trans?
Yes. Check out my FAQ page.
Totally understand if you find this too personal to answer. Something I’ve been really struggling with is bottom dysphoria during sex. Do you have any experience with prosthetic/harness combos that you recommend for using in the bedroom??
A little too personal for me, sorry.
I too have massive bottom dysphoria and I am sorry you also suffer.
I’m a stealth trans man in college and have been recently rethinking my choice to be completely stealth. I was just wondering how you feel about your decision and if you’ve ever considered being out?
I consider being out a LOT more now. It’s something I constantly think about now that I feel settled in my work, life and home situations.
There is a shit tons of good that could come out of me being a bit more open about my history, especially in my town currently as it’s a very small rural town and there is a few kids who identify as trans. They feel quite alone, and I do toss up the idea of outing myself – but haven’t yet.
Anyhow – yes, I constantly think about outing myself. Especially moreso in the last four years.
Do you mind if I ask who was your surgeon for top surgery? I wish I had known that no nipple graft with reconstruction and tattoo was an option as it would be my preference and I am having a hell of a time finding a surgeon willing to do this as a revision.
Dr Megan Hassall, about maybe 10 years ago now?
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