I decided to quit smoking cigarettes yesterday. I’m a little over 24hrs now, and doing quite well.
Think I got it this time.
They leave today and I can’t wait to just be able to walk to the bathroom in my underpants.
I don’t even have any alcohol in the house. To make this marginally more bearable.
Dinner was painful. FIL loudly complained about the inclusion of pumpkin and literally picked it out. 😂
In-laws are staying for the weekend. I get along with my FIL really well, but MIL treats my Wife like utter shit and it makes me furious.
As a result I’m kind of just hiding outside with cups of tea to keep myself out of trouble.
We’re going to K’s high school induction next week. He’s still in primary school currently, but applications start this year and the induction is compulsory.
It’s freaking us all out, I think!
Schools around here are lacking, to put it mildly. We’ve been researching for years and have settled on a private school out of area, which is interesting as both my Wife and I were educated publicly (me only in high school) and we don’t particularly value the religious elements of private institutions here.
Nevertheless, this school has amazing curriculum that aligns with K’s interest areas, fantastic facilities and a really good national and anecdotal ranking.
It’s also hella competitive and expensive.
K is busy experiencing all of the emotions that come with entering puberty, finishing a chapter of education and embarking on a whole new stage of life. Naturally we’ve had lengthy discussions around his fears and other concerns. We reckon his feelings are pretty damn normal – this is an intense time in anyone’s life.
So…that’s a tiny portion of what’s been going on for my little family lately. My Wife and I often sit back and discuss how thankful we are for having found one another, and marvel at our wealth of love.
I’m one lucky man and I am so grateful.
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When you say you’re “suffered from transsexualism” what does that mean to you? Because when you’re suffering from something usually it’s something bad and you want to change it. Do you not like being trans?
Because I do suffer from being trans. Daily. Dysphoria is fucked.
I personally despise being trans.
If I could have been born cis, I would.
Everyone else’s mileage may vary but that’s me.@drankles – Internalised transphobia? Maybe. But it’s difficult to articulate exactly why I don’t think it is. I don’t hate myself for being trans at all, but I certainly suffer from the negative mental and social aspects of having to be trans.
I can’t speak for you, but I don’t think it’s transphobic to wish I didn’t have to put my body and finances through hell to correct something that went wrong before I was born. I’m not doing this to enjoy being trans. I’m doing it to get my body as close as possible to the way it should have been so I feel better. It’s not transphobic to wish my life had been easier and I’m not obligated to feel any other way. I’d love to be cis.
This. So much this. I’ve had house guests for the last week so haven’t had the soace to be able to articulate my feelings properly, but you hit the nail on the head.
Adding onto the child ‘issue’- I was a prominent figure in my nephews life when I started my transition. He was about 4 or so at the time and he never questioned it, just as I started to look more masculine his little mind just automatically went “male” and he started using the correct pronouns. Kids are good, they won’t question what society hasn’t taught them to question.
Thanks for adding to the discussion, Anon!
Hey, just saw the question about transitioning with a 2 year old son. I know this isn’t exactly the same but I started transitioning when my brother was 5 and was/am really involved with his life. He’s 10 now, it’s never bothered him, he was the first to use the right words, corrected everyone around me, he went through a phase of “missing having a sister”, but I don’t think it’s effected him in a negative way. I think kids are super adaptable when it comes to this stuff. Hope it goes well x
Thanks for the contribution.
I’ve identified as genderfluid for quite some time now and my husband has been soooo supportive. He has taken me shopping for my first men’s clothing and he was there when I got my hair cut short for the first time.. It has recently hit me that I haven’t felt the least bit feminine since coming out and I think I might be a trans man. I’m so scared he’s not going to be as supportive because he’s always said, “there’s nothing wrong with this cause you’re not changing your body.” I’m very worried..
This is difficult, and I’m sorry you don’t feel as though he would be supportive of you medically transitioning. You must feel at an impasse.
I think it’s important to be seeking the help of medical professionals; be they a counselor, therapist or Doctor. Not only will they be able to help you transition and work out stuff regarding that, but they will be a much needed sounding board and support with regards to communicating your desires to your spouse.
There’s an analogy I often reflect on: when a plane crashes, you have to put on your own oxygen mask first. Otherwise you can’t safely support those around you who may need assistance with theirs.
I’m not sure if you find any of that remotely helpful, but I wish you well.
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