I dont know entirely what I’ll do, but I am likely to turn asks off if it continues to be an issue.
Thanks for the kind words, I appreciate it.
I get that lycanboots is talking about legitimate problems, but it just hurts to hear stuff about FTMs acting out and being this or that shitty thing. I barely get to be seen as male or trans because everyone just sees ‘butch chick’ still and if I speak up, I’m trying to hard to be legit to gatekeepers and therefor still nothing. then somewhere I can at least identify myself, other people’s shitty behaviour, mostly connected to this one website, means I can’t feel comfortableor safe here either.
Appreciate the contribution to the discussion
It’s super shitty that you dont feel validated or safe in the tumblrsphere.
by slamming down on anything they dog personally identify with, understand or experience for themselves. The arrogance of people to make definitive statements on such a complex phenominon on psychology such as sense of self, the gender construct socially and psychologically with absolute statements continues to be disappointing to me. How many years into my life before I see this toxic, insecure culture die out? You do you. Shut up about everyone else.
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Thanks for your input.
I’m looking forward to people like ginger-is-a-anagram etc realise that as astronomically small percentage of people are actually ‘trans trendies’ but are in fact A) completely valid individuals b) folk expressing or questioning their gender identity. I’ve had that level of bullshit of what ‘is and isn’t trans’ with every excuse in the book as to what is and isn’t ok in all colours of completely ignorant and selfish. I’m looking toward the day ftms aren’t so screamingly insecure AND acting out
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I am recently married – and although children isn’t something we are looking into for next month or anything, I do see it on the horizon in a year or 2. How did you and your wife go about having kids?
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Hey, weird question but: What advice would you give to someone starting to seriously examine whether they’re trans? Like, I’ve hated my body since puberty happened (I think I’m fortunate that I was late to it & basically puberty started off a 4-year mental health tailspin for me) and pretty much always felt I would’ve made a better boy but I don’t know if that means I’m trans or just really butch – looking I guess for how to find a good therapist who’ll help me figure it out.
Im not really qualified to give advice beyond I’d see a therapist or councilor that you like and talk to them about this.
Gender shit is hard and confusing and it helps to chat to someone professionally about all this.
You give me lots of hope for my future <3. I've been feeling shitty because I haven't been diagnosed with gender dysphoria because my psychiatrists won't listen when I say my depression and crap is the direct result of my dysphoria. But when I see people like you who have gone this far it keeps me going. Thanks man.
I had similar issues when I was younger.
Hang in there – this isn’t easy but it does get easier. 💚
This isn’t really an ask-sorry, I just found your blog, it’s inspiring to read about your life, I am a bio female but have doubted my gender for many years-do you have any advice you could give me as this has been going on for years and I could really do with an outside perspective much love from a confused uk individual.
Hey.
There’s probably a plethora of other guys on tumblr better at chatting to this sort of stuff about. I highly recommend seeing a therapist as a first stop – this shit is tricky and scary and you shouldn’t have to deal with this on your own.
Best of luck anon.
This may be a dumb question, but can trans ppl really adopt? I want to be a father so badly
This depends on the laws where you live.
Don’t ever give up on dreams – you want to be a Father? Then do everything you can to make that happen to the best of your ability.
Good luck.
You still shouldn’t use the term ‘transsexual’. It’s a derogatory term that was used to classify trans people as mentally ill. Don’t use the term pr get out of the community.
Lol you actually don’t get to decide how I choose to word my own condition.
While I understand the connotations for other people, it works for me and that’s the only person in which I use it to describe.
You do you and I’ll do me.
“Get out of the community” – I can’t magically stop being trans but I am certainly not part of the “trans community”.
Cheers.
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