TOMORROWWWW. Tomorrow we get the keys to our own house.
It’s also the day in which it’s forecast 95% chance of up to 1.5 inches of rain.
Fuck.
The link to your FAQ doesn’t work (on mobile at least)
Ugh, sorry about that. It will work on a computer.
Perhaps this will work:
http://transmandad.tumblr.com/faq
Re the post on your son K favoring you for some authority on things at the moment (which is I think wonderful in its own way) : I’m not sure if you’ve said before: is he aware of anything to do with you being trans? I’m wondering if you’d broached the idea with him before and that doesn’t affect how qualified you are for him to come to with even “guy’s stuff”. As a trans man, in times that I think about parenting, I wonder what I would tell my kids and how that would affect our relationship.
K knows I am trans – FAQ here – but he completely forgets and doesn’t know my junk is any different to a cis dudes. It doesn’t affect our relationship at all because he honestly needs to be reminded on occasion when it’s popped up again.
But that doesn’t affect how I feel with regards to being “qualified” – he still exclusively comes to me for penis related things and puberty related things, which has been happening far more frequently as of late, and I guess those are the exact kind of things I don’t particularly feel qualified to answer, so to speak. Despite me knowing the answers to all of his questions.
Regardless, it’s those situations which reaffirm to me that he literally forgets my junk is not exactly like his. Questions like “Dad, how do you handle random boners?” have been popping up frequently, and I guess explaining how to do the gentleman’s tuck to your kid feels kinda shitty when you’ve never actually needed to do it yourself.
Boy’s business.
K has officially entered the stage of favoring me over his Mother for things. It’s interesting to me because I am the “strict” parent, whereas my Wife is the “easy going” parent – she’s the fun one and I am the rules guy.
K’s always been a Mumma’s boy, not to say he doesn’t love hanging out with me or whatever but his personality and my Wife’s personality are so damn similar. Even in looks he’s like a mini, male version of my Wife.
Regardless, now it’s “No, I need to talk to Dad about this” or “Hey Dad, come here!” – whereas before it would have been either of us, or his Mother. Now when my Wife responds, he occasionally specifies that it’s a Dad-related thing.
This is actually adorable, but to be honest has me feeling like I’m less qualified than ever before. Hah. I guess despite having raised this kiddo since he was 11 months old, I can’t ever shake that feeling that there’s just a bunch of male related shit that I am probably not the best authority on.
And logically speaking I know that’s just my own personal insecurities, but there you have it.
Anyway – we get the keys for our house this Friday. It’s all we are thinking about – dreaming about, talking about. We did the final inspection yesterday, and when we pulled into the driveway my Wife looked at me and said “Welcome Home!”… I’m not the most emotional man ever but I definitely almost cried.
I’m super excited to spend some quality Father/Son time with K painting his room whatever colour he chooses, getting him to help me with all of the million DIY things I have planned. My Father is coming to help fix a leak in our laundry and install a new toilet (he’s was a plumber before he retired) and I plan to have K help, even if it’s just passing tools. That’s the kind of shit I fondly reflect on with my father, being knee deep in a trench “helping” (although upon reflection he was just entertaining me… I was likely hindering!).
It’s our Wedding Anniversary today! ❤⚘
8:30am – 10:45pm with no breaks is a damn harsh work day. But I at least got time accrued for moving.
Signed the mortgage documents yesterday and we get the keys in 10 days!
The term “trans masculine” rubs me all the wrong fucking ways. I don’t give a fuck what you call yourself, but don’t lump me in with these gross generalizations that only seek to homogenize our histories and current direction. I transitioned to be male, not trans. I don’t feel the need to keep reinventing ways to draw bigger lines between myself and my cis counterparts. Kindly stick to your own fucking story.
I haven’t had a new prosthesis for the longest time, but I’ve had the best luck with Peecock’s (and still use one daily, but it’s…erm… falling apart).
Can anyone give me a review of the more recent generations? I’m mostly interested in terms of packing and pissing function, with aesthetic being secondary to those things.
Alright,
I toyed with the idea of turning off anon asks because of the spam/hate I’ve been logging in to lately, but it completely takes away from the entire ability for those who wish not to be identified asking questions to have a safe space which they feel they can.
So I’m going to leave it open, and just deal with the repercussions if any.
K turned 12 this weekend and ever since, he’s had some kind of magic sass about him that is hysterical. He has decided that 12 is the magic “grown up” number, so now he’s actually 12 going on 21.
He had a great birthday and elected to have an entire day just doing family things with the three of us- we took him 10 pin bowling, had a decadent lunch overlooking the river and went to a special lolly shop (candy store) and EB Games. My Son is a huge self professed geek, and is totally gaming obsessed.
After a brief afternoon intermission my Wife and I took him out to his favourite chinese restaurant for his favourite dish; sweet and sour battered pork. He even got a fizzy drink with his meal, which in our house is an extra special treat.
We all had a blast, and it was a much needed respite from the insane work schedule my Wife and I have been keeping, alongside all our “downtime” being used for packing, cleaning and organising things for the move – which just so happens to be TOO DAMN SOON! Haha. We’re freaking out a little bit, but once we’ve got all our shit at the new place I’ll feel a lot better. I have this thing where I must leave a rental in better condition than when we moved in, so I’ll have to do a good deep clean inside and out after everything has been moved out.
My best mate is coming to help us clean and stuff in a few weeks, and I’m really looking forward to having him here.
Thanks for all the questions. I hope I do them justice with my answers.
I’m 17 and just starting out with my transition (first shot in 2 weeks!) but I hope to go stealth during/after college. What advice do you have for picking up on masculine socialization patterns/norms/etc? I do happen to be gay so that gives me a little more room to be feminine without being clocked but I’d like some tips on being one of the guys. Thanks!
Interact with a bunch of guys and you’ll notice there is no “one way” to be a man. But immerse yourself in the world of men, as a man, and you’ll soon pick up on little social traits and cues.
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