I was wondering if you could talk about how you had your son. Did you adopt? Did you do insemination? Was it a hard process to go through emotionally? I apologize if this is too personal, feel free to not answer and thank you.

I’ve answered this already, however I’ll indulge again because I’m bored.

My Wife had our Son naturally, with a man from a previous relationship. He was completely unplanned, and the relationship was never anything serious – his birth father left the scene when he was 2 weeks old. I met my Wife when our Son was 11 months old, and I am the only Father he has ever known.

He is aware that I am not his birth Father, I’m pretty sure. He mentions “When Daddy met Mummy” happening after he was born.

Often I get depressed because I am not able to biologically produce such a wonderful accident with my Wife the way my son was concieved. We don’t plan on having more Children, so this isn’t really an issue but it certainly makes me feel horrible. I wish more than anything that the simple act of loving my Wife physically could create such a amazing surprise.

Are you on your son’s birth certificate as his father?
No, I am unfortunately not. His birth father has however asked when this will be happening (mainly because he doesn’t wish to spend any of his unemployment on “a kid he doesn’t even see” – quote) and basically doesn’t give a shit at all. We’ve looked into it and even with both parties consenting, it’s going to be a minumum of $4K to do the court process of me legally adopting him, lawyer’s fees etc. At this time in our lives we simply have to prioritize spending money on other things – but this will eventually happen.

Suggestions Welcome.

Once again, I’ve exhausted my list of ideas regarding posts relevant to this blog. 

I am more than welcome to suggestions, although I can’t promise I will address all topics suggested as they may not be applicable or I may not have experience in that area. 

Submissions are also welcome.

really awesome blog. Do you think you and your wife are going to try to have anymore children?

Thankyou! We have spoken about this extensively as we both get pretty excited about having more children, especially when we are around friends and family that have little ones themselves. We have decided however that as K is 8 and both our careers are really just starting to take off – therefore it wouldn’t be a good idea to have more children. Each of us have siblings with many children of varying ages, so we get to hang out with lots of children all the time. It’s something we often speak about though, but came to the “no more” conclusion.

Hey, really great blog! i was wondering about your hysterectomy, who did you go to and around about how much did it all cost? Thanks.

I went to a regular obgyn that my general practitioner reffered me to and through some correct box-ticking on both his and my gp’s part, I got it covered through Medicare. The surgeon had never treated a man before, and unfortunately got chastised by Medicare for having me covered for it, but he never explained why.